By Jackson Morris
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When you want to attract more females, believe it or not, the best way is to already have females at hand. What? You say, to get females I have to have females?
Not necessarily but that is the fastest way. You see women are inherently attracted to other women from the standpoint of comfort, trust and safety. If any woman would share your company then other women watching are immediately attracted to you and believe you provide one if not all three of those qualities. Besides, would you argue that a guy is a "ladies man" if you saw him with a hot chick? No, of course not and yes, sisters count.
The first lesson in ALALM is "smile big for the camera". No ladies man is somber, stoic or in a bad mood. Ladies prefer men who are in a good mood and smile often. If you are a waiter at a greasy spoon or if you are a Wall Street guy who just lost his shorts it won’t matter to women if you seem like the most congenial and approachable guy in the room. Ladies men are charismatic, confident and most often the most charming guy in the room so do not try to get by with good looks alone, you must be "Happy".
Aura, energy, presence, these are qualities of a ladies man. Do you have them? Do you walk into a retail store or restaurant as if you own the place? Do you come off to strangers as kind, mannered and polished? Well if you don’t you better start now. The key to becoming a ladies man is being a ladies man before you become one….get it? Got it? Good.
When an actor goes out for a role do you think he is focused on the aspects that he "can not" relate to? Do you think he strolls into the director’s office with his head hung low and hands in his pocket? No. The actor walks in, in CHARACTER. He walks in as if he already has the part. He walks in as if he is about to audition for an Academy Award winning role. That way the director thinks he is auditioning the best actor for the role. Are you the best actor for the role of lover? Are you ready to play the role of your life, ladies man?
A ladies man is all of the following things in this order: Gentlemanly, empathic, mannered, considerate, generous, well spoken, and well dressed and a great lover. Why is great lover last? Because, you can’t be a great lover if she does not like you or let you love her. That will only happen if she sees all the other qualities listed.
Being a gentleman is top of the list for LM. A LM must be kind to everyone including strangers because a real ladies man is always on the prowl and never knows who is watching. Being empathetic is so important. Empathy shows your compassionate, kindhearted and considerate side.
Example: Opening a door for a stranger is mannered and gentlemanly. Opening a door for a stranger in a wheel chair and helping them through is gentlemanly, mannered as well as empathetic. See how these qualities can "endear" you to someone. I would rather go out with a girl who donates time to saving cats than just a woman who owns one… big difference.
Being generous is not always about money. You can be generous with your efforts, time, friends, connections etc. If you give anything to anyone "unconditionally" then that is a sign you are a generous person.
WOMEN LOVE MEN WHO ARE GENEROUS – WOMEN HATE CHEAP MEN
Being a ladies man means being all of those characteristics at once – all the time. You don’t have to donate money to be generous but if you don’t offer your seat or parking space to someone needier than you then you are selfish. Do you know "successful" ladies men who are selfish? I don’t.
Here is a tip: Work every room as if you are on the red carpet. Do you want to be a ladies man? Watch any award show with a red carpet. Every guy, whether he is married or not walks down that carpet with more confidence than a pit bull.
Even if they are with their wife or girlfriend they act as if everyone wants them… and that is okay. They smile at strangers, they laugh at silly jokes, they greet people they don’t know and treat everyone they come in contact with as if THEY were the star and not the guy greeting them.
This movie star – red carpet attitude is the foundation for being a ladies man. Women are attracted to confidence as much as they are a tight ass. If you can command a women’s attention merely with your personality then you are more than half way home with her.
Exuding confidence and being happy always gets the attention of a female so what is lesson number two? NOT acting alike a ladies man. Yes, you read that right. The most successful men can be all the things I mentioned without ever coming across as a ladies man. The stealth agent who can pull all of these traits out of his hat without blowing his cover is the "real" ladies man in my opinion.
Being a ladies man has all the elements I listed but most importantly those elements must flow from you naturally. The difference between a ladies man and a "player" is that a ladies man will get respect from women even if he is not dating them because his "reputation" is filled with mannered and polished actions.
A player is a guy who will burn a bridge to get to another one, he does not care about the woman he is with or the one he will be with. A ladies man rarely has to look for his next girlfriend whereas a player is always seeking his next victim.
Being a ladies man is about being a great guy with no ulterior motives. It is about being the guy that comes over to kill a spider, it is about being the guy who kisses well but does not push it, it is about being the guy who knows exactly the right thing for exactly the right occasion. In fact the best ladies men are good "mama’s boys". When a woman is seeking a ladies man, she is basically seeking someone that her mother would approve of.
Whatever your goal, just remember that being gentlemanly, chivalrous, and kind is a good thing whether you get laid or not. Good luck.
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