The Best Break Up -

"Good girls get pissed when they here a bad girl disrespected a good guy and they will hunt him down for the action every time..."

I am going to pose a challenge to those fellas out there that date often or have relationship experience and still have not mastered the break-up. The break up is the hardest part of any relationship next to death and has to be dealt with a certain way depending on the social circumstances.

When you are dating someone in a small community or at work or at a local hotspot the one thing that will come with the break up are "exposure" or "publicity". The publicity you get or give to the break up directly affects you and your image. Even if you don't give a shit about your local image you should because a great break up will sometimes lead to a new connection.


How To Get Over A Break Up

When I was a kid a friend of my brother's taught me the two most important things about fighting. First, "know when it is a fight". Second, "if it is a fight, is already dirty so anything goes". The point being, if you know it is over, it is over! Don't try to stretch it out or play games - be a man and make a decision and end it.

If you resort to doing dirty tricks and putting blame and guilt and all that other crap on her then you will come out the big loser. Even if she cheated on you or betrayed you, you are going to find a way to get back up and show strength and dignity and most importantly poise. It will be poise that teaches her the most valuable lesson in losing you.

So if you know that it is over and you are going to "end it" but you are still FLAMING MAD - take a break. Get away from her and maybe not even return her calls. Depending on the situation (she cheated, she lied, she is untrustworthy) you must pull yourself together even though she is at fault and possibly a total bitch.

Let's face it, if she did those things then she is no angel and she deserves whatever she gets. The beauty of being the bigger person is you get to walk with your head higher at work or in your neighborhood or at the local bar or wherever.


Relationship Break Up - The One Two Punch

The first part of the relationship break up is going to be CALMNESS. When you are seething over what that bitch did remember to talk in a calm and comforting tone. This will drive her crazy because she knows deep down if it were her she would cut your dick off. This tone will also keep her attention the entire time you two are talking about your problem. She will be vexed by why you are not angry and your tone will backhandedly insult her because it almost implies you expected this behavior from her and you are not surprised.

Whether you break up in person or over the phone (she deserves less) just remember never lose your cool, this is pivotal to the work she will do for you later down the road.

The next thing you will do in the one-two-punch is to compliment and thank her. You are probably thinking to yourself, "Why would I want to thank that bitch for anything?" The reason you would thank and compliment her is to humble yourself. You will thank her for the great times you shared together and the laughs and compliment her style and sex appeal. Tell her that you forgive her for what she did and you hope that the two of you can be friends.

If you work together or live in a small community it is inevitable that you two see each other again and if you "spoke in a kind tone" and "broke up in a civil and kind manner" then she will be the one with her tail between her legs when she sees you with another girl. She will be the one that avoids telling the "story" of your break up because she will only be able to say bad things about herself and good things about you.

This is the "down the road" work I was talking about. If you are a cool guy who forgives and treats even a bitch like a lady you will get the best publicity and exposure you could possibly get other than a rumor of an enormous penis. Girls are competitive as hell and want a great guy badly.

If a bunch of girls are out partying and you walk by and one of your ex's is in the group she will tell them "how great" you are and how cool you were when you busted her for being a lying whore. One of those girls in the group will start getting the eye for you…guaranteed. "Good girls" get pissed when they here a bad girl disrespected a good guy and they will hunt him down for the action every time.

So when you know it is OVER and even if you are pissed off and bitter as hell - stand tall and be better than her. The last benefit of breaking up this way is that she sees how confident you are and shows your character is greater than hers. When she knows this, you win - no matter how much she may have cheated on you behind your back. Sometimes the strongest of men, the noblest of men show their strength and character with empathy, not indignity.

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