By Jackson Morris
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My father was a self taught musician who made his living playing the "lounge circuit" in the 60`s & 70`s. According to my mother, his other full time job was philandering. They eventually broke up when my mother caught him in bed with two (2) women at once. I have slept with two women myself many times, but the irony is I have never met my father.
My brother has lived over 2000 miles away for more than 10 years but each time I see him he picks up on a girl right in front of me. None of us are really close anymore but clearly there is something about all of us that sends the message "sex" because we all seem to get so much of it.
Inherited Horniness
Is the ability to attract women genetic?
Is it a skill?
Is it in the blood? Certainly behavioralisms can be passed down or even mimicked just by watching. Additionally, it is a fact that some people just have a very active libido, oft more so than others. I have never witnessed my father in action but my mother has witnessed us both and said it is almost identical in how we both make "good looks" take a back seat to "charm" when we are hitting on a woman.
Charming a girl is a skill you`ve either have or you don`t. My strongest influences for understanding females was my sister and mother, they taught me so many things not to do that a guy can look better just by not "messing up". That alone can make you seem very charming.
What you do inherit from your family is "looks" and mannerisms. Those you can count on inheriting whether you like it or not. You can inherit looks, manners, money, property, even a big forehead.
What you can not inherit is "charm". It is a behavior to learn and a skill to use. I inherited straight teeth and great eyes. I learned early on that those items only take you so far. You have to walk the walk to get to the finish line. I wear a size 12m shoe, and have stuck that thing in my mouth too many times before I learned what patience, charm and most importantly "seduction" is.
Charm 101
What is charm? The dictionary says it means, to attract or delight greatly & to induce by using strong personal attractiveness.
Induce by using strong personal attractiveness.
This means to make yourself attractive by how you speak and act, not how you look. If you are not handsome you can accomplish the same goal. If you are handsome, you will become that much more attractive to the female because you seem "nice on the inside" as well. The act of being charming is difficult if you are not patient or are selfish. No one has ever said, "He was the most impatient and charming young man". Think: Be a `gentleman`.
"Charm" is how the Casanova develops his skills early on. Confidence is the foundation of charm and mimicking what works is the bricks and mortar. Generally the budding Casanova comes from a diverse environment where exposure to many types of people is evident. This exposure gives him "lessons" from many different "ladies men" -- he virtually learns and lives his lessons vicariously through others.
I Will Drive
The next component of the Casanova is "sex drive" because you have to walk the walk. If you charm a girl to death and then don`t close the deal, you are literally putting frustrated women back out into the market, that`s not good. Not only that you get labeled a "tease" which might as well be "fag" as far as I am concerned.
So put up or shut up! You better have the sex drive of Rudolph Nureyev or Errol Flynn or better yet, Jack Nicholson. The guy is a total Casanova and will be until the day he dies. That is the downside to the Casanova, his sex drive is unstoppable and he sees women as different flavors, offering each of them a little part of himself.
Casanova School
You graduate from Casanova School as soon as you get married. That is when the skills are most powerful: When you can not use them (he laughs a brutal laugh). Most guys wearing the Casanova "coat of arms" know that it is only a matter of time before another younger more delightful Casanova will take his place and he will feel it when the young buck comes under the radar and swipes some prime female right from his grasp.
The Casanova is at his peak performance when he is in his early thirties to late thirties. He is "established" by now financially and has been "around the block" mistake wise so he is "fluid" in his game.
Do you see how this is learned behavior, behavior you can either learn the hard long way by watching and imitating other successful men? Or do you now see that this learned behavior can be picked up relatively quickly with the right teaching? If you agree with that, then make sure you subscribe to our free tips newsletter!
A `natural` Casanova isn`t in it for a week or a month: He is in it for years. A `self-taught` Casanova is someone who has undergone a `Geek Makeover` and has put their work in, in a relatively short time frame. Is that you?
The good news is if you`re like me and didn`t know your dad, it doesn`t matter.
You can be a Casanova whether your dad or brother are, or not. Expose yourself (not literally) to as many women as possible and just speak with confidence and grace so you entice them with your charm (we have many articles on this).
Then do what Casanova himself did: Bang them and bang them well.
I don`t know if my dad is responsible for handing me the Casanova gene, I do know this, I did all the work. Go to work.
