Charm Your Snake Into Her Pants

I knew this title would get your attention. I can’t actually take credit for it, my gorgeous sister gave it to me during a recent conversation when she was sharing with me how much farther the average guy would get with women if he’d just wake up and learn how to be charming.

And I have to agree.

Here’s the secret so many men fail to realize:

Charm and good manners are going to get you much farther in the long run with women than simply learning to be “cocky & funny”.

Why is this true? Well for one thing, cocky without charm pisses a lot of women off. Self-assured is one thing, acting like a Bantam Rooster is another, and most men use the Bantam Rooster approach. What I mean by this is that most men use the cocky approach to cover up the fact that they’re actually pissed off at other men for being more attractive and successful to the opposite sex, and pissed off at women for their lack of success with them – and guess what? It leaks out of their pores and gives them away. Cocky and funny with poorly camouflaged anger is a far better repellent than attraction.

Then there’s the fact that funny is a subjective term. What makes you laugh until your sides hurt and what makes most women chuckle can be very different things.

Finally, and here’s the important point, charm and manners are both behaviors with substance. They’re behaviors that are a way of life. They may take awhile to master, but once you’ve got them you’ve got them – and they’ll serve you no matter what age you are, or what country you’re in, and certainly no matter how completely fantastic the woman.

But what does all of this have to do with sex?

Absolutely everything. The more a woman enjoys your company, the more time she’s going to want to spend with you, and the more opportunities you’ll have to move things into the bedroom – so long as you don’t go into an old default mode of trying to “friend” your way into her life and become a door mat.

Big note – charm does not equal emotional doormat. Charm does not mean you’re a wuss. Most of the sexiest men on the planet are also some of the most charming. I’m talking about men like Antonio Banderas, and Sean O’Connery, and Pierce Brosnan, and yes even Sean P. Diddy Combs. Let’s take a look at what charm actually means in order to understand how it works for men like these above, and countless men through the ages have used it to their advantage. The online resource Dictionary.com states that charm is, “The power or quality of pleasing or delighting.”

So men like those listed above don’t have to go into a memorized routine to show women they’re great to be around because they like women and know how to please and delight them. They own who they are, and their power as men, and guess what? They were behaving this way long before they were well known. In fact, it was this sort of behavior that helped make them famous – and also helped them charm the pants off women from the get go.

But again, let’s be very clear on what I’m really talking about here. Pleasing and delighting a woman doesn’t mean you’re always available to go out when the bad boys she prefers stand her up, nor do they mean you’re her savior loaning her money when she’s broke. Pleasing and delighting a woman means you’re fun to be with, that you’re great company, but you’re nobody’s fool.

And certainly pleasing and delighting a woman means you know how to make her happy in bed. So many men brag about this ability and yet when it’s time to “get it on” they make it all about themselves. They are literally all talk and no valid action. Women are very complex creatures sexually, what worked on one isn’t necessarily going to work on another. And let me be very frank here – what a girlfriend will put up with in the bedroom for the sake of a relationship (and by this I mean a selfish lover) a woman who’s mainly looking for a lover won’t. Why should she put up with someone who doesn’t thrill her when another man will?

That’s another secret of charm. Men who are charming treat women well, and take their needs and wants into consideration whether they’re with a woman for one night or the rest of their lives. So many men use their need for sex as an excuse for bad behavior. As soon as it’s clear that they’re going to get what they want (and yes I mean sex) they slip into such selfish behavior that many woman can’t wait for it to be over. Think I’m kidding? Here’s a quote I found recently by the very beautiful and sexy Cameron Diaz:

“Most men are the same. They’re only interested in fucking you and they don’t care whether you’re happy or sad. They just want to get on with their business in and out of bed, and they make you feel that you don’t count except as their sex toy.”

One thing about Cameron, she doesn’t mince words! If this is what a sexy, beautiful and famous woman is thinking and willing to say out loud you can bet money scores of other sexy and beautiful every day women are thinking the very same thing because that’s exactly what their experience has been.

So why not shake things up and be different? Why not learn just how charming you can be and just how far it’ll take you?