By Jackson Morris
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
Why do confident people shine? They stand out in a room, a public place and even a public restroom. They are the ones that smile at you and look you directly in the eye when they talk.
When they do speak, their voice is their language, literally commanding attention by using personality not power. The simplist of subject matter can sound important when being delivered by a person who believes in every word coming out of their own mouth - they believe in themselves and have a lower fear factor than most.
The fear factor is the key to great confidence. I use that phrase as if I have never heard of the television show yet there could not be a more profound name for a show that tests your confidence level. Confidence is not always a belief that you will win - it is never a belief that you will lose.
Gaining superior confidence is more about accumulating than suddenly gaining. Everytime you fail or embarass yourself that is a potential "building block". Everytime you "get back on the horse" and try again at what ever you failed at is the "cement". You will fail, and you will try again, you will get better and you will believe in getting better, and you will grow to believe in yourself.
The Journey To Building Confidence
In this path of building your great wall of confidence you must realize that first that it is a journey and not a joke. No offense but you can't be a pussy and be confident at the same time. Confidence is like a uniform, when people have it is hard to take it off and it is hard not to notice it.
To build your wall you will need more than the bricks and cement, you will needa a foundation. So what is your foundation? Belief. Yes, you must have belief to build belief. That is like saying you have to have money first before you can be rich. Not exactly.
In business, the up and coming hotshots always seem like they have money before they actually do.
That is why we end up buying from them. They play the role to sometimes perfection of what they want us to see them as.
When an actor goes out for an audition they talk up their credits as if they have been a star for years. They certainly don't go before a director or producer and say, "Hi, I am a struggling actor with no self-esteem and a small penis. Would you all please feel sorry for me and call me pathetic when I leave, thanks".
Think of yourself as a struggling actor. Think of every social setting as an audition. When you leave or enter a building or just hanging out at a deli, say "hi" to people. Smile at strangers as often as possible. This is the first step in your journey to building confidence.
Conversing with strangers on a nominal level will help you build "spontaneous social skills". Spontaneous social skills are the first sign of belief and begin the building of your foundation of confidence.
Award Winning Performances
This is not an ACT - your belief, it is real and you are building this aspect of behavior into your personality. If after you have said hello to half the planet on a spontaneous level, the next step to building superior confidence is "generosity". This means be generous of your time and energy.
People that come off as unselfish are oft times seen as having a "strong backbone". People that have empathy and understanding who offer themselves even at the lowest level are people that are more in touch with emotions than others. When you can be in touch with the emotions or needs of others than you will actually decrease the amount of insecurity that you project and even harbour.
You have to want this stuff pal, not just make others think you want it. Once you come off as selfish, it is like a bad tattoo, one that says you are insecure. You can be generous a thousand times, but if you are selfish once that is what people will think.
Selfish = insecure.
You want to avoid creating any situation that makes others think of you in a way that you don't think about yourself.
Ultimately what you think about yourself and "fear" itself are the biggest obstacles in building superior confidence. I could tell you where to go to buy clothes or even tell you how to style your hair if you want me too. Telling you won't give you any more confidence than you have when you take a shit in public restroom.
As a matter of fact, I have almost helped you too much so far. The most important thing you can bring to the table is the realization that YOU have to do all the work your damn self. You can not take a vacation from the world and expect to return to a welcome mat of respect. People respect confidence and even gravitate to it.
Your core belief that you are cool, inteligent, generous, and even sexy is the way you will become all those things.
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The Complete Puzzle
The last piece of the proverbial pie is "seduction". The first time you completley satisify a female from initial meeting to dropping her off after a night of passion is the moment your puzzle is complete. To go full circle with a woman in the art of seduction will give you confidence beyond your wildest dreams.
You may not even know it is happening when it is happening because it will have been an accumulation of your effort to be cool without trying to be cool. When it is over you will know what happened - you will be all that you have built. So if you are wondering how long it takes to build your wall of conidence - I don't know, it is different for anyone.
I can tell you this though, you will know for sure that you are there when you are laying on the dining room floor naked with coins stuck to your skin while she lays on your chest giggling and working you to go another round.
