By Melissa Balmer
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
“Real education must ultimately be limited to men who insist on knowing, the rest is mere sheep-herding.” – Ezra Pound
Spring is officially here. Soon the sidewalks of your hometown will be filled with scantily clad women parading their beautiful sexy self’s right before your eyes. Is this the year you’re going to be ready to follow them into the bar/club/coffee house and strike up the sort of charming conversations that ends with you exiting stage left with a happy smile on your face and her number in your pocket? Or is this going to be another summer where you stand on the side lines and watch other men go out and have a good time with the women you desire?
I know you’re shy. I know it’s a jungle out there. I know you may have been turned down in the past in ways that left a nasty scar on your psyche…but that doesn’t mean it has to ruin the rest of your love life! I chose the above quote because knowledge really is power. The men who are winners in life (whether it be business, politics or love) are those who learn from their mistakes and then keep right on learning. The men who are winners in any aspect of life realize that the majority of people are lazy and accept verbatim information that’s spoon fed to them by the popular media. The majority of people do nothing to think outside the box, learn new attitudes, new information, and whole new worlds. So do you want to be a man or do you want to be a sheep? Do you want to be a winner, or just another face in the crowd?
So your love life sucked in the past. Okay, desperate times require desperate measures. It may well be time to give yourself your own personal “Extreme Makeover”. No, I don’t mean you need to rob a bank in order to afford all kinds of plastic surgery. The type of “Extreme Makeover” I’m talking about works from in the inside out. I’m talking about an extreme mental makeover. You truly can change what you experience in life by changing first the way you think. The best part? It’s totally free and you’re the one totally in charge!
Your Mental Attitude about Yourself
We all have a mental commentary that goes on in our heads everyday, all day, but many of us are so use to hearing this voice that we don’t realize it’s going on. What does this inner voice of yours say to you about you? Stop and take the time to figure it out. Does this inner voice of yours act like a cheerleader coaxing you forward to do your best, or is it a barrage of negative criticism telling you how stupid, unattractive and boring you are?
If you’re like most people that voice in your head is full of negativity, mimicking every mean and hurtful thing anyone has ever said to you. So what can you do? First and foremost forgive yourself for it happening – but know that you cannot stop this negative tape running in your head unless you replace it with a different positive message. That’s right; you HAVE to replace the thought about yourself with a positive thought about yourself. The most powerful kind of positive message you can replace negative thinking with are those in the “here & now” – an affirmation in the present tense such as:
- I’m a great guy
- I’m an attractive, sexy guy
- I have a wonderful personality
- Women adore me
Will you feel strange saying these new positive affirmations about yourself? Yep, you’ll probably feel like a total idiot…but don’t let that stop you. You’re worth recreating how you think about yourself, even if it means re-thinking yourself one positive thought at a time.
Your Attitude about Life & Sex
At the very heart of the matter, at the very core, sex is life. No, I haven’t suddenly become fundamental on you. I don’t believe that sex should only be used for procreation, but I do think it’s important that we stop and take a moment to remember in our hectic, over scheduled, every day lives that sex is about creation, it’s about affirming life.
What are your real beliefs about both life and sex? Do you believe you deserve to win in life? Do you believe you deserve to have a fantastic love & sex life? Do you long for a wonderful, hot, exciting sex life but deep down you think it’s a sin to have these thought? Be brutally honest with yourself. Many of us allow ourselves to succeed in one area of life, but we don’t believe we deserve success and happiness in all the ways life has to offer. The world has a way of mirroring to us our belief system. If we don’t believe we deserve much than that’s just exactly what we’re going to get. By changing our thoughts we change our world. I know it sounds totally radical, so I’m daring you to try it! It’s free and no one needs to know what you’re up to except you…so go ahead, I dare you to have thoughts like the following about yourself:
- I deserve the best in life
- I’m continually learning, growing and succeeding
- I have a fantastic love life
- I love sex and sex loves me
Don’t like my suggestions? Go ahead and make up your own positive power house that’s that will begin you on the path to not only a successful life but a great sex life as well.
Your Attitude about Women
If deep down you actually fear or dislike women, if you think that women are second class citizens than your love and sex life is going to reflect that. Yes women are mysterious creatures! Yes they can be baffling, and annoying and frustrating! But that’s no reason to fear or dislike them…cause guess what? That’s not going to get you the hot sex and love life you secretly (or not so secretly) desire. Women are just people. They have most of the exact same wants and needs that you have (they just need to use more words to describe them) and the sooner you fully accept this the sooner you’re going to move out of bewilderment in dealing with them into having fun.
That negative tape that you have running in your mind tearing you down also tears others down as well…are women included in that group? Do your best to catch yourself when you find yourself disparaging the opposite sex for no reason except your own confusion and misunderstanding of them. Negative thinking about women will only poison your future with them. In fact, negativity in any area of your life has a way of leaking into all the others of it. Why do that to yourself? Aren’t you worth better? Why not move towards a brighter and sexier future with women by discovering everything you like and love about them and then affirming that!
A new brighter future is waiting for you…but you have to do the work to begin your own “Extreme Makeover” one personal thought at a time.
