By Jackson Morris
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
What makes me so qualified to write articles on interpersonal relationships and sex? I didn`t invent anything or discover a cure for cancer. I don`t aspire to much and my college transcripts read like a cheap yard sale novel.
It is simple... I get my content from life, and I get laid.
This isn`t a story about my life. It is about the first step you take and make before you score. It is about the intangible element that exists when two people first meet and the energy that will and can be created. It is about you being on the top of your game before the game even begins. It is about making a long lasting and positive "first impression".
Great First Impression
The most important element of first impressions is the idea that you may not even know you`re making one. You could be at the grocery store, library, gas station, or even the coffee shop every morning and not know there is a "looker" looking at you. One consistent fact that I write about frequently is how "patient" women are. They want to view you in your entirety. They are not as impulsive as men when they see the opposite sex visually. If you don`t know she is watching you, you will truly "be yourself" and often she will watch to see what she finds. Remember this!
In these scenarios, the element of meeting is slim unless you catch her watching you a couple of times. When a woman gets caught two or more times checking you out, you have made a good enough impression to ask her out and she is practically giving you permission. The beauty of this element is if she checks you out enough over a period of time (i.e. coffee shop) she will eventually wave the white flag for you to approach the camp. The sight unseen first impression is the best because it is you not her trying to impress anyone and women find that attitude confident and strong. Think about it, if you can make a good first impression without even knowing a woman is watching, you are golden. I just hope you pay attention every once in a while so you can see this work for yourself.
The Facial First Impression
The full frontal facial first impression is all about confidence and control. Most importantly controlling yourself is the key. This is the scenario when you just can not control yourself and you feel compelled to approach a woman you do not know. She is so attractive or you thought she flirted or you just want to nail her because of her chest.
What ever the case, imagine for the first 15 seconds she can read your mind, every body motion and every intent. I want you to imagine this because she can. Women that are attractive or charming get hit on all the time; don`t think you were the first to notice her.
During this 15 seconds of fame your one and only goal is to make yourself seem "different" from everyone else that has approached her. But not too different - don`t be a freak.
Make sure of a few things before word one leaves your mouth. First, check your grill. Never approach a woman without checking your nose, eyes and mouth for "hitchhikers". Hitchhikers are eye crustiness, boogers in your nose or food in your teeth. You could look like Denzel Washington and sound like Gandhi but if you have snot hanging from your pie hole, you are o-u-t.
After the grill check, put on the most natural smile possible (especially if you are nervous). A million writers will attest "women love to laugh", well a smile is the next best thing. Moods are like diseases, they spread fast and quick and everyone is susceptible. So contaminate the room with your smiley good mood and head on over...
But don`t stay long. Have a point to why you`re approaching her. Think of every approach as a script.
A script contains: Intro, Body & Close.
Intro - Body - Close
Women confess often that "hello" is the best approach, even if you want to say something clever or compliment her, say hello first. It is natural and it is polite, so what better intro than saying "hi" or "hello". After she responds, we can go to the body of why we are here to begin with. The body of what we say will truly make or break us when it comes time to close, and let us know in advance if we are allowed to. The body will consist of three things; asking her something about herself, an unconventional compliment and a "suggestion" for the next meeting.
The question you ask her will be directly related to what she is doing, i.e. the groceries, the coffee shop, the gym etc. The unconventional compliment is important. If she is beautiful, DO NOT SAY THAT! Everyone else has probably told her how beautiful she is a million times so look for something else about her, and pick ONE THING.
I like to pick something they are wearing because it compliments her "taste" and says you have good taste at the same time.
The "suggestion" for next time must be subtle and flow. After the hello, the question and the compliment, "suggest" a rendezvous for coffee or better yet, lunch. Lunch is the greatest date meal because most people won`t order alcohol and you both have to leave in an hour. The girls like it because they get to interview you for an hour over a free meal. Men like it because they get out cheap and still look generous.
That`s it. There`s not more to it than that. If you add more to it, you might be overdoing it. First impressions must say a lot in a short amount of time and your goal is for her to spend those 15 seconds letting you create your own first impression not the prefabricated one she has for every man. Be strong, be positive and be confident, but most importantly be different, because you are.
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