The Guide to Picking Up Girls

“The best rap is one that matches your own personality. A fake attitude or rap is hard to pull off and can come off as obviously fake. Improving your own attitude, outlook on life and personality is the first step to giving yourself a master rap.” –from The Guide to Picking Up Girls…

There’s an old adage that men both won’t and don’t buy dating advice books in regular brick and mortar bookstores – thus the great popularity of advice sites for men on the Internet (lucky us!) – and it’s true. Go into any popular bookstore and while there are a plethora of dating advice books for women, but for men it’s something of a desert. In fact, I found out about “The Guide to Picking Up Girls” via an article that included author Gabe Fischbarg in a woman’s magazine.

Interesting. The good news is that I found out about this great little book, and I recommend you run right out and get it – oh wait, you’re guys so you’ll just dial it up on the Internet. No problem. The important thing is that you let Gabe inspire you to “get your rap down” and then, most importantly, go out and use it.

There are so many things I liked about this book I don’t have enough room to share them all with you, so instead I’m going to share with you some of the highlights I found most powerful:


Practice Makes Perfect

I particularly liked the following practical piece of sage advice, “Creating, developing and refining the master rap can take time. Improving your rap and honing your rap skills should be a long-term project.” I couldn’t agree more, in fact your skills and finesse in every aspect of dating, romance and sex should be considered a long-term project – but you’re not even going to get a date unless you work up the courage and the skills to talk to women first. And that’s what this book is all about.


Forget Your Ancient History of Bad Experiences

We’ve all had bad romantic experiences with the opposite sex – even the most beautiful, sexy, popular people have. Gabe points out that there are women who are mean and full of anger and you should avoid them at all costs. He’s right. In fact, I’d take it a step farther a recommend you avoid anyone who’s constantly angry and mean as they’ll only pollute your world. The time for anger is over. If you want to be successful at picking up women you’ve got to be ready to party and have fun.

Gabe goes on to point out in Chapter 2: Overcoming the Fear of Rejection that there are two types of women out at night – those with their switches turn “on” and those with their switches turned “off.” Obviously a woman with her switch turned “on” is open to being chatted up by a man and those who have their switches turned “off” aren’t. It’s that simple. The Guide is all about being practical and not having you waste your time. The reasons that a women might be out on the town at night are numerous and none of them have to do with being out just to reject you. Once you realize a woman’s switch is turned off it’s time to move on, and quickly as possible, with a thought in your head that says “next.”


Your Mission is to Impose Your Will

Here’s where Gabe wins in his advice over those advice sites and books that simply (and continually) advise men that success in picking up women is all in being “cocky and funny.” Each woman is an individual, so each encounter calls for ingenuity and finesse. However, if you keep in mind that your mission is to impose your will on a girl by showing her that you have the power to be fun, entertaining and confident and that she needs you in order to be fun, entertaining and confident herself you’ve completed the puzzle. That’s something, Gabe so rightly points out, that every girl wants.


Most Guys Have a Terrible Rap

Amen! Gabe writes on this topic, “Most guys don’t know how to talk to girls in the right way. Most guys have no hobbies or interests that girls like. All most guys know are sports, business, drinking, and that’s it. Most guys that girls meet at night act too drunk and too obnoxious.”

And here Gabe finally puts to rest the fable that nice guys don’t win with women, “In truth, girls don’t like guys who are weak. Girls like guys who are tough and have confidence. You can be nice to the girl without acting weak. You must show the girl that you’re in command…Show the girl that you are supremely balanced; tough, confident and nice all at the same time.”


No Girl is Too Pretty For You to Talk To

Here’s a truth I always hear very pretty and sexy women complain about – that most men are too intimidated by them to actually ask them out! Gabe insists that you shouldn’t be intimidated by a woman just because she’s really attractive, as attractive women have just as many insecurities as any other female (and he’s right).

Gabe instructs you that, “A pretty girl is no better than you are, and a good rap will work on her as much as on any other girl who has her switch on.”


You Need the Right Wing Man

It’s important not to intimidate women when you’re out for the evening so Gabe advises in most cases not to go out with more than one wingman. The cultivating of the right guy, though, is an art. Gabe points out, “Don’t waste time hanging out with poor wingmen. A bad one can destroy your rap, because often we are judged by the company we keep.” In fact, Gabe goes so far as to point out it out to your wingman when he isn’t doing a good job, since it’s in your own best interest to help his rap as much as possible, and to dump a wingman who won’t take take tips on improving.