By Melissa Balmer
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“No woman wakes up in the morning not wanting to be swept off her feet that day” – Hitch
The romantic comedy Hitch is now out on DVD. So does that mean the suave and charming Will Smith (who plays the character of Alex Hitchens aka ‘Hitch’ the Date Doctor) can teach you how to land the woman of your dream in only three dates the way he claims in the movie?
Yes and no. Unfortunately just like most romantic comedies out of Hollywood these days this movie has large doses of pure fantasy going on – so no, I don’t think even Will Smith could teach an ordinary overweight accountant how to sweep a woman as beautiful as super model Amber Valletta off her feet the way he teaches Kevin James (yep, King of Queens funny man) in the movie – however – that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t run out and rent this movie. You should, and here are the three very good reasons why:
What You Can Learn From Hitch
1. It’s a romantic comedy guys can actually get into even if it’s not on a date.
2. Yes, you will learn a few great dating tips beautifully illustrated to show you exactly how it’s done.
3. Eva Mendes is really hot.
I don’t want to ruin the movie for you so I’m not going to review the story line per se, instead I’m going to go over the actual dating tips the character of Hitch teaches his male clients during the movie:
Hitch - No Woman Wakes Up in the Morning Not Wanting to be Swept Off Her Feet That Day
We are all romantic creatures (even if secretly so) and woman probably even more so than men. There are two big challenges to the romantic gesture men make in hopes of sweeping a woman off her feet:
1. The weight of your expectations and reasons for making the gesture.
2. Using the wrong type of gesture.
By the weight of your expectations with a romantic gesture I mean, “what you expect to get out of it.” It’s these expectations that often ruin a possibly great moment because you’re giving in order to receive – and trust me, women can actually feel it. The men who are masters at sweeping women off their feet with their romantic gestures do so as if the gesture were “no big deal – just something he thought the woman would enjoy.” Make no mistake; this type of energy is totally different than the man who goes into a romantic gesture with the idea “I want to make her love me forever with this.”
Another way to fall flat with trying to sweep a woman off her feet with a romantic gesture is using the wrong sort of romantic gesture for the woman in question. What each of us considers romantic if a pretty personal thing, sure there are the old stand byes like roses and candlelight, but the type of romantic gesture that really sweeps a woman off her feet is one that takes her personal taste totally into account. That’s when you make the big brownie points.
Hitch - You Cannot Use What You Do Not Have
This is an excellent point. While you can certainly learn new skills and improve on old ones, trying to make yourself into a whole new person just isn’t going to work. Either you won’t pull it off with any finesse, or sooner than you’d think the old you is going to pop out and ruin the effect. Focus on perfecting skills that are really important to your entire life rather than trying to master something (like say, bull riding or tango dancing) just to impress one woman you’re really hot for.
Hitch - 60% of Communication is Non-Verbal, 30% is Tone
I am so happy they made a big point of this in the movie! It’s so very true. There are so many men who lose with a woman just as they’re coming out of the starting gate because both their approach and tone kill any interest a woman might have in them because, well, it sucks. Many men lose by being too darn aggressive thinking a forceful manner is going to prove they’re real men. This can really turn a woman off because it shows you might be aggressive all the time and woman have to constantly consider their safety.
And no matter how hot it is to sell the “cocky & funny” approach out there it just doesn’t work with every woman. Here’s the thing, you should already know by now if “cocky & funny” works for you. What do I mean by this? If everyone laughs at your jokes, if you were the wise guy who got out of detention with your female teacher because of you could make her laugh, than you can probably use “cocky & funny” on women and it’ll work – if you’re not this sort of guy learn a different approach.
Hitch - How to Communicate Successfully with Women? Listen and Respond
Yep, you’ve got to stop your drooling, stop your eyes wandering, and stop imagining her naked in your bed (Hitch is telling you this as well as all of us here at SeductionInsider.com to boot) and pay attention to what she’s actually saying and respond appropriately. If you’re actually checked in and paying attention it’s relatively easy to have a great conversation with a woman.
Far too many men allow their physical enthrallment with a woman make them into space cadets, and far too many others use a conversation on a date as bragging rites. Keep it simple. Listen and respond.
Hitch - The Secret to the First Kiss is to Go 90% of the Way and Hold…
Great great tip and there’s a truly hilarious scene when Hitch teaches Kevin’s character exactly how this is done. Why this rule works? Because by going 90% of the way for a kiss a man makes it very obvious what he’s after without going so far forward the woman can reject him. A woman can still duck out without the guy losing face, but only a completely dense woman won’t understand what he’s all about…but leaving the 10% for her to travel means that when she leans in that last bit she really wants to be kissed. And isn’t that exactly what you want to know?
