By Jackson Morris
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
Telling someone to "overcome their insecurities" is easier said than done. While their is also insecurity in a relationship to deal with, in this case you may never get into a relationship if you first don`t conquer the insecure behaviour you have today. And until you do this, you`re probably not getting laid either.
If you are an insecure person, you wear your insecurity on your sleeve; others know it and women can sense this trait right away. Just as each of watches others and their behavior, others are watching us as well. We all learn behavior from one another to begin with, so if you can learn one behavior then you can learn another. There are specific examples that are definitive and obvious to the opposite sex and if you pay close enough attention, you will see them behave this way as well when insecurity is evident. As you learn what drives your insecurity, keep in mind you did not invent that insecurity. Many others share the same insecurities and they are nothing other than "emotions of our imagination". They do not exist unless we give them power to. So let us focus that power elsewhere.
Flare Gun
When a man exhibits insecure behavior he sends up a flare that represents "weakness". This is not an attractive quality by anyone`s standards and rarely will promote her taking a second look.
He slouches or walks with his head down or even looks "lost" in the simplest situations. People that can not make eye contact when talking or when you`re talking to them. Or are you that guy that goes into paralytic silence the moment a girl walks in to the room. Maybe you`re even worse, someone who talks to the girl all night about inane crap only to balk at asking her for her phone number, what a waste. Do you think this behavior works? Do you think she does not notice? Are you tired of slamming your head against your locker?
If you read that last paragraph again you would think I was describing an eight year old boy. Unfortunately I am referring to many men who don`t understand self worth and wear their "walk all over me" attitude on their name tag. The only bigger crime than being insecure is being insecure when you already have a woman. If you`re an insecure man presently dating an independent and strong female, it will not be long before you are single again. If you`re insecure because you are "certain" she is doing something behind your back, she probably is so save your pathetic breath and leave that nasty hood rat. Show her you`re in charge and won`t stand for it. For you lonely bastards out there who think it is better to be with someone for any reason than to be alone, you`re wrong. If you are wasting your time kowtowing to some girl who does not appreciate you and on occasion makes you feel like shit, then shit on her. Reach down, grab your God-given nuts and get to steppin`.
Self Actualization
Let us get you started on the right track in the right frame of mind. Self actualization is almost as if you get to step outside yourself and take an "aerial view" of you and your life. Remember this is YOUR view, not anyone else`s opinion or perception of you. If someone you know refers to you in any negative tone, you need to put this out of your head when you take your aerial view. Consider what is most important to you, from how you treat people to what you have enjoyed in your life. Consider what "is", not what you have not done yet or what you have failed at. Remember, at your funeral they will not read the negative stuff about you; they will read the positive stuff. These are things that YOU measure for YOU.
Do not limit your thinking and your flattery of yourself. Being proud of yourself is the most important accomplishment you can make. Self confidence starts at home with you. Look in the mirror every morning and do two things; tell yourself something nice and make your self laugh. This exercise is the first step to self confidence. If you look like Opie from Mayberry and talk like a Conehead that is okay if you have a great smile and enjoy your job. Your aerial view is not made up of your sexual conquests or any one accomplishment for that matter. It is an all encompassing view of YOU, your self worth and how you genuinely "feel" about yourself. Remember women are insecure as well and there is no situation you will be in on either side that has not caused them concern at one time or another.
Use It Or Lose It
Now you will take this "view", this positive aerial view and it will become your tool. It will become your smile. It will become your energy. It will also become your ally to any negative nay sayers and haters out there cramping your game and your style.
Confidence is the most priceless commodity in dating. I wrote that bold for the hard of hearing! When you see guys with all the toys, the slick car, the bling watch etc., take a good look at them. If you take away all those toys are they really that impressive? Who would not be impressive or confident with a Ferrari under their ass? But even rich guys lose out because there is that contingent of wealthy men who can pay the check but can`t muster up enough change to say "Hello". You don`t have to "pose" or fake like you`re something you`re not, merely be extra proud of what you are and honor yourself for what you`re not. This vibe will pulse out of you like a beacon to women waiting, just waiting to get the signal.
