by Carlos Xuma
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Hi,
I`m sharing a
house with my mom. How would I handle a question about where and who I am
living with. I originally moved in to save some money while going back to
school.
But I know that the idea of living with my mom does not put me in
the best light if I want to make my best impression. How should I handle
this if asked about where I live etc. The bottom line is that it`s cheap
right now I hope to be getting a place soon or in the near future. Thanks for your advice! I have ordered the black book and it is very insightful.
Hello,
I`ve heard similar questions from guys in various situations. It all really
boils down to putting the right spin on your situation, and NOT appearing
apologetic or embarrassed about it. You have to make it clear to others that
you`ve got no issues about the situation. Obviously the ideal situation is
to be out on your own, but circumstances do not permit.
How would a confident man disclose this? First of all, you might want to put
your situation out there first, before she asks. That says that YOU don`t
have a problem with it, so why should she?
On the other hand, she may only ask where you live, and you don`t have to go
into all the intimate details quite yet.
Here`s how I might spin this situation:
"You know, I came up with a really ingenious idea a while back. I decided
that I should move back and help out my mom for a while. While I was in
school this worked out the best for both of us. And my family is very
important to me. I`m working on some pretty interesting goals for the next
year, though. I`m going to get a place of my own in ..." blah blah.
(Note that "help out my mom" is generic and doesn`t require explanation.
Make it sound as if it was out of the closeness of your family and the good
of your heart.)
Then, the last thing you say is: "Were you wondering if I was one of those
slacker guys who lives with his parents forever or something?" She`ll say,
"Oh, no! Not at all!"
And you say, "Well, I do have to ask for permission to drive the car. And I
can only go on dates that I can reach by skateboarding, but I thought you`d
understand all that." And you slip her a wink and smile that tells her you
were kidding.
If you tease her in the right way about it, you take the pressure off having
to justify why you`re doing what you`re doing. Remember that she doesn`t
care about the situation as long as you can spin it to be something you have
PLANNED, and you are still in control of your life. You demonstrate goals
and an action plan, and that this is all on purpose. You didn`t decide to
move home because you can`t hold down a job, or you lost all your money
gambling, or you`re just a general loser. You did it to help out mom (who
could resist that?) and to target your next goal the right way.
If she still has a problem with your situation afterwards, that`s her
problem, not yours. Some women are just hung up on certain things. The
whole point is to demonstrate your confidence that she`d be missing out if
she overlooked you for something so trivial.
When it comes to choosing a place to go to in order to keep things moving
forward, you can usually steer a woman to her place. If you have to get some
privacy, either kick mom out for the evening, use a friend`s house (this is
where you might offer to house-sit for friends), or just see if she`d like
to rent a room and see where things go. You may have to get creative with
locations for the time being.
Remember that a woman will not care about the reality if you can demonstrate
a convincing enough image of a man with a purpose, conviction, and attitude.
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Carlos Xuma
