The Truth About Pick Up Artists

In last week`s article in Seduction Insider, you learned how to get out of your own way and get ready to become a great seducer. This week you’re going to learn why it’s so crucial to not only always keep women in general in mind, but also the specific woman you’re interested in completely front and center. At the same time, we reveal the serious flaws that self proclaimed `pick up artists` preach to so many desperate men willing to shell out thousands of dollars to attend a seminar on `seduction` (if that`s what you want to call what they`re teaching!). Skip the seduction seminar. Really.


Study Women - Don`t Study Pick Up Artists

Learning about women while playing poker with the guys (who claim to know it all) isn’t going to cut it now, is it? Let’s face it. Men are tantalized by women, confused by women, and totally dying to have sex with women but what do most men do? Obsess away over women, drool over the woman walking by on the street, or over a secret poster in their bedroom, or over a particular adult film actresses personal website but then do absolutely nothing at all constructive about learning how women think, what they want, or (most importantly) what they desire.

So if you want a leg up on the competition, do your homework and start your training. When you choose the right material to study, choose very carefully... I`m sure you realize the right teacher makes all the difference between long term failure and long term success.

Do you want to learn seduction from a self-proclaimed hypnotist or card magician (aka `pick up artist`) that relies on `neg hits` to work to a woman`s low self esteem for success?


Ross Jefferies vs. Tom Cruise

Consider that Ross Jefferies, a well known marketer / seminar guru who claims he can make even the most homely man with a pot belly and bald head successful with hot women, is rumored to be the basis for Tom Cruise`s character in the movie, Magnolia? Reporters, you need to check your facts before you start writing about `rumors`; because that`s all that is. That`s like trying to lend credibility to Pete Rose. In fact I thought I saw Ross Jefferies and Pete Rose hanging out last week...

So, these pick up artists are preaching that you should use Neg Hits to work to a woman`s low self esteem. Okay, sure, you might get lucky one night at the local pub after trying this on twenty women to finally find the desperate one with low self esteem, but trust me this low self esteem woman has a ton of emotional baggage, and maybe more than one sexually transmitted desease, and you don`t want that. You`re better off single and happy and disease free than with the wrong woman.

Neg Hits, which are purposely putting down women with pick up lines such as `Your nose wiggles when you smile`, or `Nice shirt - actually I just saw it on the cashier at the liquor store`, in the end are just corny and for the most part creepy. Ask a number of women today for their opinion and you`ll here a resounding `yeah, creepy`.


Pick Up Artists And Neg Hits

Who are these pick up artists trying to impress? Now think about that? Isn`t that how school yard bullies shook your little brother down for his milk money back in the day, with Neg Hits? They got his attention, but in the end he damn sure didn`t respect them.

How much success do you really think you`re going to have with `neg hits`?

I`m sure you know it. There is a much better way. As you`re about to learn below.


What Women Want

Now, it’s easy enough to find ways to study women and what they want if you’ll just be smart about it. Women are shouting to the treetops about what they desire from men – but here’s the rub, they’re usually shouting it to other women. Yep, the best way to study women is to watch the movies they like, read the books they read, and ditto on their magazines.

You`re not going to see any pick up artist win a woman`s heart in the next block buster chic flick.

He`s the creep she`s running from.

What about the chic flick "Hitch" with Will Smith (Columbia Pictures, 2004)? Hitch wasn`t a pick up artist as referenced in this article. Hitch was sincere. That`s why he won the girl, and that`s why his co-star Kevin James - aka "hopeless Albert" - won his girl as well.

Oh now don’t make a face, I know you sit happily enough through chic flicks on the first few dates with a woman you’re hot for, and you even like some of them. Make it easy on yourself and your eyes and rent those who have female stars that totally float your boat. And no, you don’t need to blab about it to your friends. Let them find their own way to understanding the female psyche.


Study A Specific Woman - Don`t Study Pick Up Artists

Studying a specific woman does not mean you email her constantly, IM her to chat throughout your workday, and call her every night for a long chat after your favorite T.V. shows and before hitting the sack. Nope. You’ve got to learn the difference between studying a woman and becoming obsessed with her.

Let me break it down for you. Studying a woman means that you’re not only totally present when you’re with her, but you’re also remembering her responses to key questions, remembering her tastes and likes, and beginning to understand her psychology. Think of studying a new woman you’d like to seduce the same as taking a class you want to get a good grade in. You do your homework, you study hard for the tests, but you don’t worry and fret over the class or the material the rest of the time. What do you do instead? You live your life. It’s the same with seduction.

Now let’s take a closer look at what I mean by being totally present with a woman. Being totally present can be totally different than showing up. By just showing up you’re there in body but not in mind as well. We’ve all been on a date we didn’t really want to be on and know how we didn’t show up mentally, but the same thing can happen with a woman we’re totally hot for without our realizing it? Why? Because the “Me Show” (explained in last week`s article in Seduction Insider) rears it’s head again.

When we’re nervous we tend to obsess over what we might be doing wrong rather than the person we’re with. If it’s a woman we’re attracted to we add to it the worry over whether or not she’s attracted to us as well. Both of these worrying actions take us out of our body and into our minds, which is not where we want to be. When we’re in our minds we miss crucial clues as to how things are going in the here and now. And in seduction you always want to be in the here and now.


Women Want to Be Seduced - They Don`t Want `Neg Hits`

As revealed in "The Science of Picking Up Women", women want to be seduced -- not only that, they often fantasize about being seduced -- so use this to your advantage... If you don`t have this book yet, I sincerely urge you to get a copy.

So back to what we were discussing, and what to do now about studying women and not self-proclaimed `pick up artists`? Ask yourself how you’d respond if you absolutely knew the woman you were interested in was:

a) just as into you as you were into her

and

b) wanted to spend time with you

Once you answer this question for yourself your job is to “act as if” during your time with this woman. Yes, you’re going to be nervous, but by “acting as if” you’re going to get out of your head and back into the present moment with the woman you’re attracted to. Use this trick whether it’s the first meeting, your daily encounter with a woman at the office coffee pot, or on a real date.

To stay present you focus your attention on the woman and do more asking of questions than answering them. Now this doesn’t mean you’re going to become an investigative reporter, however, it does mean you’re going to pay attention and recognize right away what she does and does not want to talk about. You’re also going to remember her answers better – which is crucial. Great seducers pay total attention, make mental notes, and use this information to forward their cause of seduction.


She`s As Good As Yours

Women are usually more than happy to open up to a man about their likes and dislikes, what annoys them though is that most men (if they’re sexually interested) pay attention to the woman’s lips moving and not what she’s saying... and she’s telling you important stuff. She’s telling you what it’s going to take to get closer to her, what’s important to her, and often what she finds romantic. Listen up!

Far too many men make sweeping generalizations about what women want romantically, sexually, and to feel special by men, when in reality each woman has very personalized taste and you’re going to win massive brownie points by paying attention and then using this information to your advantage at a later date. Think about it, if you paid attention and know she hates roses but loves Gerber daisies you’ll score big points. Same goes for knowing that she prefers day hikes to shopping, or dogs over cats.

So guys, your eyes may have discovered her, but it’s your ears that’ll help reel her in.

Now you just need to learn how real seduction works.