By Jackson Morris
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
How does attraction work? Why do some women seem more attracted to us than other women? Why do some women seem more sexual or uninhibited with us than others?
Why do our "moves" only work with some girls and not all girls? What is seduction and when does it create deeper attraction for us?
Neither seduction nor the psychology of attraction can be summed up in brief analogies or quotes. Simply put, it is a chemical reaction that you share with the other person. Chemical reactions such as euphoria, pheromones, instinct and dopamine play a big role in what you FEEL as attraction.
Anthropologist Helen Fisher, author of "Why We Love," studied the brain circuitry that makes falling in love the intense, passionate emotion it is. She found that the brain sees romantic love as a reward, stimulating activity in the same areas that light up when a person seeks any kind of a reward, whether it's chocolate, money or drugs. That area of the brain is called Ventral Tegmental and from there pigmented cells known as dopamine send messages to the part of the brain called the caudate nucleus.
First Came Attraction
All that medical terminology and those chemical reactions take place at such a high speed you may not even know it until your buddy shakes you and tells you, "Quite staring at the girl, you are making her nervous." It is not uncommon to associate attraction with "sexual attraction".
Most people (mainly men) base initial attraction solely on a girl's physical appearance, and whether she makes and holds eye contact. He knows nothing of her other than "she is his type". That is where simple attraction begins - eye contact.
How does attraction work? It starts with the eyes. People look at each other and something happens internally that MOTIVATES. Through this intangible motivation that dopamine is released and an almost euphoric feeling takes over. Your adrenaline is higher thus building your confidence. It is as if you are being seduced by your own body's reaction to your attraction of the girl.
Be aware that the attraction you have for another woman may or may not be shared by them. You will feel this as well and you are going to have better odds of a union if she is having the same chemical attraction reaction to you. You should also see this in her eyes and body behavior. Don't make it up in your head, pay attention to the real signs.
Infatuation (Massive Attraction)
Why do some girls fall for us quickly and some never fall at all? Infatuation is the answer. The majority of the time that you are feeling massive mutual attraction with someone it is because they are sharing your reaction and most importantly your energy. One of the "majority rules" of attraction psychology you should be aware of is - you are not for everyone.
The dictionary defines infatuation as a foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant short lived passion or attraction. That my foolish lovers is what you are feeling the MAJORITY of the time that you are experiencing the psychology of attraction.
Some girls will feel this infatuation as well. When two people have this chemical reaction at the same time there could not be a better time to make your move.
Flirting - How Seduction Starts
You would think that seduction would play a big part of INITIAL attraction and infatuation but it is nominal to the role it plays to LONG TERM attraction and love. Women, though capable of the same chemical reactions, seem to seek much more from a man initially than tight abs. Women can be attracted to power as equally as men are to bust size and long legs. A man who is confident and well spoken is "sexy" to women and has no correlation with physical looks.
Initially the only real seduction is FLIRTING. Flirting is a form of seduction and acts as the bait to command attention that is a litmus test to see if you both share attraction and infatuation. With women flirting equals attention and women love attention.
Flirting makes them feel attractive and wanted. That feeling will only sustain itself with a female if you continue to provide a stimulus that fulfills that feeling. You being attractive is not enough to seduce any woman.
Seduction sustains attraction and psychologically makes a woman feel wanted, needed, beautiful, and sexy.
When she is feeling this way, she reciprocates with tactics of seduction of her own. Seduction plays the key role in maintaining a high level of passion, love and intimacy in a long term relationship and even short term ones as well.
The only role you have here is being yourself. If you want a female, the right female, to be attracted to you then advertise YOU. If you too make eye contact and you feel your brain turn into a chemistry set, seize the moment. When you see it in her eyes that you are both attracted then smile and strike up a conversation.
Let the drug of infatuation get you both high as s kite as you breathe each other in. Hopefully three months from now it will get worse for you both.
If you are curious what the top level of attraction to another human being is, then just ask yourself this question: "Would I die for them?" Now that is a love and attraction that no doctor could decipher.
