By Jackson Morris
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
The title sounds like a title to an Oliver Stone film but it is much more serious than that. Movies are make believe and only last 2 ˝ hours at a cost of $9 unlike a relationship that is much more costly and lengthy in its entirety.
Relationships are not like a movie but more like a Broadway play. Plays are done live and even with much rehearsal it is obvious when someone says something they are not supposed to. In the play this can be called a scene killer, but as a couple it can be a relationship killer.
People can be picky and even finicky about quirks, habits and behaviors in both themselves and their partners when it comes to a happy union. How we communicate can bring two people together as quickly as it tears them apart by each other's throats.
Behaviors and communication are at the center of the fault line when it comes to something that can extinguish a relationship. If it is a solid union then the building of love won't fall at the first sign of trouble, it will be worn down brick by brick from the foundation until it collapses.
Some relationships can die with the stroke of a verbal axe, literally disintegrating before your eyes by merely… something you said.
ACT I
How we behave toward our mate out of the bedroom is the key to them enduring US. Question: Has anyone in your past ever called you selfish, self-centered, needy, jealous, co-dependant or controlling?
If you have been called at least two of these or been called one of them twice then chances are you are a little bit of all these unflattering adjectives. If you have called someone any of these names then you should be aware of what this crappy business model looks like and avoid it in the future especially if you have attracted this type more than once.
How we act in the simplest of circumstances may be the proverbial straw in breaking the camel's back. Do you come home every night and bitch about your day expecting your mate to listen but not offering them an opportunity to tell you about theirs?
One of these nights your mate will get tired of the selfish onslaught and find someone attractive to ask them how THEIR day went. Do you make jokes at your mate's expense in front of others just trying to be the life of the party and get laughs? Do you look at members of the opposite sex in the presence of your partner and say, "Wow, they look hot!"
These verbal blunders are crushing to your partner's ego and eventually will make them see you as nothing less than disposable… like a diaper.
ACT II
Cheaters never prosper - unless they don't get caught. This topic is simple: If you cheat on your partner then you deserve any thing you get. If you get caught cheating and your partner takes you for half of everything or better yet denies you half of anything then you should have thought about that first before doing the nasty behind the back of your significant other.
Call me stubborn or even closed minded but I can not think of any legitimate reason to cheat. If you want another person, then leave the relationship.
ACT III
Raise the roof! That is what comes to mind every time I get laid. Hands held high over my head celebrating my hedonist acts with dance and song. How is your sex life? Mine rocks. My sex life is the least of my worries and it is worthy of a national focus group.
When two people first meet, their chemical reaction to one another is usually the fuel for the sexual flame between them. It is okay to occasionally lose that flame but the person who puts the least effort in rejuvenating that flame will be the one most likely kicked to the curb.
Sex is such a huge component to a relationship because it provides intimacy, closeness and stress relief. If you can not have those at will on a regular basis without drama with your partner you probably won't be in this partnership very long. Face it, one of the benefits of having a mate is being able to get laid at will. If you are committed to someone you rarely have sex with, then put ME out of my misery and break up with the lousy lay.
ACT IV
Cleanliness is next to Godliness according to the bible. Personally cleanliness is just a good move. A real relationship killer is: Funk. Yes funk, any kind of funky smell coming out of your ass, mouth or armpits. Funk is also any kind of unnatural hair growth in your ears, nose, groin, back and legs. Funk could also be the bathroom at your apartment smells as if there is a dead body tucked under the toilet. Maybe your refrigerator has a lab experiment going on in the crisper drawer that would make a serial killer vomit. The greatest kisser in the world will die alone if they have wretched breath. The greatest lay in the world will die alone if their ass smells like a sweaty longshoreman.
The best way to avoid the acts of relationship murder is "DON'T OFFEND". Don't offend their ego, don't offend their sense of worth, and don't offend with words or odor. Try to remember there are two of you in this relationship not just one and if you are working solely to satisfy yourself than neither of you will be satisfied. You will both be looking for new victims in your vicious cycle of relationship killings and probably on a regular basis. So if anyone has called you selfish, self-centered, needy, jealous, co-dependant or controlling then don't worry because you too can still find love…among vampires.
