How to Have Anal Sex

This particular gift or act is not just a gift she is giving you, but a gift she also bestows on herself. I am referring to "her first anal sex".

Whether it is her first anal sex or just your first time with "her", there are anal sex tips that can help you both arrive at the technique that is most pleasurable for her. Trust me gentlemen, if she is happy you will be too.

Though this is not an anal sex guide, I will attempt to guide you toward sexual fruition. First, it must be established if she even wants to explore any anal sex position. This can be established during foreplay or cunnilingus.

While either kissing her or licking her vagina, explore her anus with your fingertip. I like the forefinger because you have the most prehensile control. Be conservative and listen to for "audible" confirmation.

Moaning means she likes it, sounds of pain or a hand grab means back off.

After you have established either verbally or physically that she wants to try anal then remember that it is very important to go slow. Do not approach this like jackhammer vagina sex because it isn`t. Vaginal sex is as much about the clitoris as it is the hole. Anal sex is all about "hitting that spot" down deep. Her little "one way street" is not used to your big schlong powering down as if you`re driving the last nail of your life. So make sure you have all the right tools for the romp.

Durable condoms are highly recommended here. I can not preach safe sex enough. Even if you are with your life partner, you are susceptible to various bacteria that could can cause painful urinary tract infections if protection is not used. There are even far worse venereal diseases out there so be sure you have condoms that are durable from a reliable company.

Don`t get "spermicide" condoms because they can sting and you can not get her butt pregnant anyway. Buy lubricated condoms (not ribbed!) and most importantly buy good lubricant. There are many stores that sell various lubricant products, don`t be shy, and go ask the salesperson which is the most like "her" natural fluid or moisture.

Make sure that stick is ultra slick before she rides.

Some girls are into hardcore anal sex. Though it is not recommended by doctors to "mix fluids", some women during the act (while she is on top) will literally pull the penis out of their vagina and immediately stick it right in their ass. These girls are hardcore and know what they want and literally want to sit on it and might not even tell you they are going to do it.

Another example of hardcore anal sex is when the girl you date has anal sex toys. These anal sex toys can teach you what she likes at the same time. If her toy is a double headed dildo for the vagina and the anus but the anus one is much smaller, then that is a clue that she does not want the whole kit and caboodle in her ass, just a little to drive her crazy. Some girls like arse play (ass play) but not full blown anal sex.


Rock of Ages

Some women, usually older or women near menopause, suffer from vaginal dryness. This can happen for various reasons and even all the lubricant in the world won`t help. The walls of the vaginal cavity are tender mucous membranes that require "natural" lubrication or they can break down and cause fissures and subsequent discomfort.

For this reason anal sex can be a logical alternative. Pregnant women experience a literal rainbow of emotional and physical sensations, most certainly near their last trimester.

Sometimes anal sex might be more comfortable for her during pregnancy, and sometimes men don`t want to have vaginal sex during pregnancy, and want her tight bottom.

The other end of the spectrum is the "teen scene". Don`t be surprised by how many young girls have explored their body already and crave anal sex. Personally I am not into teen age girls, but the idea of a hot 18 year old girl who likes it in the ass does sound erotic and sexy. I highly recommend checking for identification because anal sex with a teen is not only statutory rape, but sodomy as well. Be good!

If your girl knows what she is doing, then she will lead the way. Tell her that you want to and have your tools ready. When she is ready she will tell you and guide you literally by putting herself in her favorite anal sex position and use her hands to guide it.

Most women like it from behind when having anal sex. Some women like to lay completely flat on their stomach and others like be on all fours.

Then there is the missionary anal sex position. She is flat on her back and her legs are pulled back and spread apart. Only a real pro can take this position because big daddy has the power to drive it deep this way.


Anal Recap

Have female friendly lubricant and durable condoms near the bed. Get her in the mood with your fingertips. Cover and lube the unit and then gently... very gently push the tip of your penis between her cheeks, but don`t penetrate her.

She will probably tell you at this point what she wants (slower, deeper, etc). She will more than likely take your penis in her hand and guide it in at her own pace herself. SLOWLY stroke her, sliding in and out very patiently and methodically until she loosens up or starts doing the work with her hips. Once she has taken you completely and loosened up a bit just follow her lead.

Remember this is more for you than it is for her (in general), unless of course you make her have an orgasm. If you can give your girl an orgasm from anal sex then you are the king.