Eight Steps to Becoming a Guy Magnet

Women who are great flirts are great guy magnets. Great female flirts are those who know that it’s women who set up most flirtations. How? By using ancient universal female flirting techniques. For thousands of years women from China to Australia to the United States have used this technique. It’s easy, it’s simple and it works. You see a strange man across the room who appeals to you, you watch him until he feels your eyes on him, your eyes lock for a couple of seconds, you look away and then back to him – twice. Yes, it’s that easy. If you sense him beginning to watch you with interest wait awhile (say ten minutes or so) and do the whole game all over again.

When speaking with a man who interests them women will usually tilt her head to one side or another. To strengthen your interest touch his hand or his shoulder briefly when you’re speaking to emphasize a point. This touch will show the man you’re open to him.


2. Like Yourself

Men like women who like themselves. It’s as simple as that. If your game has been to let men know how rough and challenging your life is try a new tactic. The next time you’re chatting with a guy you find attractive let him know about the positive things going on in your life. Don’t brag, don’t lie, but do be positive about yourself.


3. Get Out and Socialize

Prince Charming may find Cinderella at home cleaning house in the movies, but in real life you have a far better chance of meeting available single men if you go out and spend time where the available single men are. If nightclubs and bars aren’t your scene, no problem! Why not join a local chapter of the Sierra Club or sign up for events at your favorite museum? Instead of sitting home every night pick one night a week to spend at your favorite local coffee bar reading or writing in your journal. Shy men are far more likely to approach a woman and strike up a conversation after he’s seen her several times.


4. Enjoy the Company of Men

This seems like a no brainer and yet I’m amazed at the number of women out there who are on the hunt for a serious boyfriend or husband and yet seem to think that men are a different species of animal than us and are at best to be tolerated. If you haven’t really enjoyed yourself with the men you’ve spent time with in the past either you need to have a better understanding on what your interests, ideals and beliefs are and find men who have similar ones – or you need to come face to face with the fact that perhaps you’re not looking for a unique individual, you’re looking for your mirror image.


5. Have Your Own Life

There’s nothing that scares away an independent together guy more than a woman who’s willing to drop everything for him. Most of us have done this in the past; however, very few of us seem to learn from this mistake. Don’t wait for a boyfriend to have a social life. Have both male and female friends to go out and do fun things with. Why male friends? It’s a natural human law – we think a person others find desirable more desirable. When other men see you out with a male friend enjoying yourself they don’t assume he’s a friend – they assume he’s competition and it can really spark their interest.


6. Appreciate Your Appearance and Make the Best of It

Great, hot, interesting, available men don’t all want a woman who looks just like she stepped out of a fashion magazine, but they do like women who take pride in their appearance – especially when going out. Make up might not be your thing (it doesn’t have to be) but how about making sure your finger and toenails are in great shape before stepping out the door? Instead of always wearing jeans or pants in general why not wear a flattering skirt from time to time? How about making sure the colors you wear show off your complexion and make you look great?


Men like women who like being women. They like what makes us different. They like our curves. Some women are afraid you have to dress in an overtly sexual manner in order to get men’s attention. You don’t, but it doesn’t hurt to show a flash of leg and a hint of cleavage either! Men like women who know how to enjoy their femininity and their sexuality and they believe that they can tell this by the kinds of clothes a woman is wearing. Why not make sure you’re in the running?


7. Know How to Enjoy Your Leisure Time

This is another point that seems totally obvious and yet…So many women are so busy and “stressed out” building a successful career that they really don’t know how to relax and enjoy themselves in the presence of a man. Before you walk out the door for a date or a night on the town, remember to leave your list of life shoulds, goals and the- age-by-which-you-want-to-have-your-first-child at the door. A woman looking to fit men into her carefully planned agenda doesn’t attract men, she repels them.


8. Know What You Want In Bed

Ladies it’s time we stopped thinking that men are going to “show us the way” in bed. Men don’t automatically know what you want or need in order to enjoy yourself during sex – you have to fill him in! In order to get over your fear and embarrassment remember that most men really want to be able to please their partner in bed. Remember, for most men being with a woman who’s totally turned on and into the moment with them in bed is literally one of the things they live for.