Dating Up: The Secret to Dating Wealthy Men

To start off, let me be very clear – nothing in life is free. There is no free lunch. Yes, there’s the possibility of a five star lunch that you don’t plunk down your credit card for, but it still won’t be free. Dating wealthy men doesn’t take being absolutely drop dead gorgeous (though it helps), but it does take smarts, focus, dedication and hard work. So sit back, relax and get ready to learn about a whole new world.


It’s Not All About Sex

Please note that the title of this article is “Dating Up” not “Sleeping Up” because it really isn’t that tough to have sex with a wealthy man. All a woman needs to do is have a great figure, wear a sexy outfit, and hang out long enough at the bar of a fancy restaurant or hotel and sooner or later a well to do man will pick her up for a bottle of good Champaign and a roll in the bed of his hotel suite – and that’s probably it (same for rock stars).

But that’s not what we’re talking about here, what we’re talking about is learning the skills to give yourself a chance at a real relationship with a man who has the world on a string and will be willing to share a good part of it with you. Being great in bed is certainly a wonderful skill to have, and it will come in handy, but the first thing you need to learn is how to not only live in a wealthy man’s world but also thrive in it.


Walk & Talk Like A Lady

Remember when your mother told you to sit up straight? She was right. You might not think that something as seemingly unimportant as posture and grace are important in this modern age, but guess what? You’re wrong! They matter tremendously in the world of wealth and class (and make a great impression anywhere, really) so if you want to make an impressive impression no matter where you are you’ll hone these skills to perfection.

Let’s start with great posture. That means not only sitting up straight, but also having your body in alignment when walking down the street. The two biggest ways women learn great posture is through horseback riding (especially English) and dance (especially ballet), two expensive fields of interest that the wealthy adore.

In order give yourself great posture imagine a ribbon pulling you up from the top of your head and allowing every part of your body to fall naturally into place. Look at yourself in a full-length mirror – from both the front and the sides. Your head should be centered over your shoulders. Pay close attention to see if you carry your head tilted forward or back and adjust yourself. Your shoulders should be relaxed and down, not hunched up around your ears with tension. Also, make sure that your pelvis is centered, as well and that you don’t carry your hips sway backed nor tucked under. Making great posture a habit takes time so write little notes to yourself as reminders to “sit up straight” and “walk tall” on your bathroom mirror, your refrigerator, and in your car.

A woman who can walk elegantly in a pair of high heels is a woman who men follow with their eyes with fascination. A woman who walks like an elephant in high heels just makes people cringe, and yes, men do notice. If your high heels make your ankles feel like they’re breaking with each step, the heels are too high for you. In order to walk elegantly in heels take a note from runway models. No you don’t have to prowl down the street, but do walk with on foot straight ahead of the other rather then walking with any space between your thighs. Also, pay close attention to whether you walk pigeon towed with your toes turning inward at all. Simple be conscious of turning your foot out a bit (not too far like a ballerina though) when walking and the problem’s solved.

Grace is the overall manner you carry yourself, and of course, the way you behave when dealing with others. How do you sit down in chairs, and then get back up? Do you have great posture when standing but slump when you sit down? Do you have bad habits when sitting and talking with someone like shaking your leg, twisting your hair or fiddling with your clothing? Are you able to hold a conversation with someone without your gaze wondering off in boredom, or wandering around the room for someone more interesting to look at? It’s a well known that Jacqueline Kennedy mesmerized men with her ability to focus on them and make them feel like the most important person in the room when she spoke to them. Princess Diana had the same ability. Why not learn from two of the most beguiling women of the last century?


Cultivate A Pleasing Voice

Sure we’d all love to sound like the voice of Jessica Rabbit (created by the very talented Kathleen Turner) but it’s not necessary. What will help you creating a lasting impression on a man, however, is having a pleasing voice free of most regional accents. A Southern accent is charming as long as you use correct grammar, however, most other regional accents tend to grate on the ear unless you happen to be from that local.

Two of the greatest films every made about recreating oneself to fit into the upper classes are of course “My Fair Lady” with Audrey Hepburn and “Working Girl” with Melanie Griffith. While they’re both very entertaining, they’re also very true in how society ranks people by the way they sound.

(Coming next week more tips on how to date up the income ladder…)