By Grant Day
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
You say your love life sucks, but what are you really doing to change it? When is that extreme makeover going to happen? I mean other than reading a bunch of magazine articles and perhaps a number of books? I’d wager good money you’re not doing nearly as much as you think to make this makeover happen. Why? Two reasons – we humans are creatures of habit, and we love to read about changing our lives, and talk about changing our lives, and even thinking about changing our lives a heck of a lot more than we like to actually do something about it.
You are, I’ll bet, a contradiction in terms, shooting yourself in the foot with your behavior all while believing you’re doing all possible to make the right things happen.
But the proof is in the pudding. If you’re not experiencing a great dating, love and sex life, you’re not doing all possible to make it happen. So just where are you going wrong with your life's extreme makeover? It’s time to find out where you’re contracting yourself.
Want to Give Yourself an Extreme 'Life' Makeover? Actions Speak Louder Than Words
So, you say you want a better love life, but what are you actually doing to make it happen? Reading is great, and we hope you’re doing quite a bit of it right here – but are you putting all these great tips into play? Or are you mulling over things in your head all while doing exactly the same old thing?
How can you tell? How many new men are you meeting each month? And of those new men you’re meeting how many dates are you going on? And how many of those first dates are turning into great second dates – if that’s what you want to happen?
Dating (as we always tell you here at Seduction Insider) is a numbers game. I know that sounds cold, but it’s true. Think about in this light – the more eligible single men you meet the more opportunities you have to find someone you really click with emotionally, intellectually and yes, physically. So, when considered this way, are you really make a game effort of getting out there and meeting the right guy? Are you using all the tools at your disposal to make something happen for yourself? Are you getting out at the type of social events you really enjoy, and that show you off to your best?
I didn’t think so.
And there’s the rub. If your game plan isn’t netting you great results you haven’t got the right actions into play. And if you haven’t got the right actions put into play it’s time to take a step back and look at the core of just what’s going on with you.
Extreme 'Mental' Makeover - Examine Your Beliefs Closely
Okay, here’s the deal, in order to net great results for your dating and sex life your actions and beliefs have to be in sync. That means they have to match – and yet every day I meet people who have dating and sex thoughts and expectations for their dating life in one place and their actions completely in another. If you aren’t getting out there and finding ways to meet the kinds of guys who find interesting than your beliefs may well be holding you back.
Maybe you still hold the notion that your life is really a Hollywood movie (no matter how many times we tell you isn’t) and someday, somehow a terrific guy is going to discover you while you continue to hang out only with your family and a small group of single friends – none of whom are doing any better at getting out and meeting new single people than you are, or who are perhaps even helping to sabotage both of you.
Perhaps you’re making yourself too available to men who are making it clear they’re just not into you. Sorry to be blunt, but it’s time to face the facts. If he’s not calling, emailing and asking you out, he’s not that into you – or he’s got major problems that should make you leery of him in the first place. So let him go. There’s big possibilities out there waiting for you, but you’ve got to open yourself up to it.
Or are you perhaps going out constantly and spreading yourself too thin with the wrong kind of guys? Are you using your sexuality constantly for attention? Are you giving it up for guys just to spend time with them, but not really enjoying yourself?
Here’s the thing. No one is going to discover you romantically if you haven’t taken the time to discover your romantic taste and needs yourself. That’s right, no prince is going to show up on a white horse if you haven’t done your own romantic homework – nor is a man going to discover your true sexual self if you haven’t done the often challenging work of figuring out who you are sexually for yourself.
Ah the sex word. This is where so many of us really lose our groove, and yeah, ladies this means you. While we live in a time of unprecedented success, prosperity and independence for women and yet so many women still expect men to know exactly how to please them sexually when the woman herself hasn’t a clue how she even thinks she’d like to be pleased. Listen, men aren’t handed an instruction manual for female sexuality when they hit puberty. Take the adventure into your own hands ladies and find out what it’s going to take to please you. Do you need a slow hand? Lots of mental stimulation? Lots of foreplay? Role playing? Do you know how you at least think all of your wonderful sexual bits will like best to be pleased? You’ve got to help us out ladies! You hold the key.
