Getting Dates Fast -
Post the Best Photo Possible of Yourself
This is such a "no brainer" that I'm amazed people
still post totally unattractive photos of themselves.
No, not all of us are blessed with a face and figure
of a top model, or an all-star athlete, but geez make
an effort! It never fails to amaze me the stupid
expressions so many men wear on their faces in their
photos, as if they've been caught by surprise and
haven't actually taken the photo themselves on their
web cam.
Why is it that the ladies are doing so much
better at this, guys? And why do men also insist on
posting photos of themselves with a group of friends?
Hello, this is about YOU.
On the other hand, posting too many photos of you is
asking for trouble. If you're a guy you just look
gay, if you're a really hot woman all it'll do is get
you fan mail from the type of men you probably don't
want to go out with anyway.
Get Over Writing About Yourself - but don't bore us
with excruciating details.
The first half of this subject line is mostly for men,
the second half is mostly for women (yes, these are
gross generalizations, so sue me).
Guys, keep the
fact that you hate writing about yourself to yourself.
No one wants to know that you sucked in English
class, or hear your modesty (false or otherwise).
We're talking about mating here! What is really more
important other than your children if you've already
got them? Buck up and polish what you're putting out
there about yourself.
Funny and unique wins over "here's my sad life story"
any time. And short and sweet beats long-winded to
the point of someone's eyes glazing over. What you're
trying is spark curiosity here, not give them a
complete education. Remember less is more.
Still not sure what would be the best thing to write?
Take some time to browse through other profiles and
take some notes. Most sites let you know who the top
profiles are, so it's easy to take a few tips from the
winners.
Starting a Conversation
Gone are the days when there were so few women online
on dating sites and so many techie geeky men that the
ladies could post a profile with a great pic and sit
back and wait for the men to circle the wagons.
Nope.
Oh sure, if you're Tila Tequila hot you can post a
photo and wait for the guys to line up, but for the
rest of us mortals we have to make an effort all on
our own. Let me put it more clearly, unless you
browse and look through the possibilities you might
miss someone really great.
Now, this being said I'm still proposing that men do
most of the chasing to score actual dates. But no one
said a woman couldn't let a guy she finds hot that he
has a nice profile, or just say "hi."
I equate this
to the same thing as a woman smiling at a man at a bar
that she finds attractive. She isn't telling him she
wants to go out, or even sleep with him, but she is
opening the door for him to give it a try.
What Not to Do
Dudes DO NOT send women your resume. Ladies, don't tell men your sob stories.
Why otherwise
intelligent and successful men and women find the need to send
huge long emails to people they are trying to attract is beyond me.
Guys, if you want a woman to like you
for your money go right ahead, but if you want to be
liked as a person first just say "hello" and let her
know something SPECIFIC that you liked about her
profile. The boring, tired, dull, stupid, "Hey sexy
what are you up to tonight" just doesn't get you far.
Don't get so dazzled by her photo that you act like a
brainless moron.
And ladies, don't mention your two kids in your first email. Let that come out over time.
Perhaps the two of you are only looking for a sexual relationship? Don't bring your kids into it (unless he's into the MILF thing).
As a general rule of thumb keep your emails back and
forth short and sweet. By all means ask questions,
and answers those sent to you that you're comfortable
with, but don't write essays.
As a writer this is an
easy trap to fall into, but learn from my mistakes and
avoid it like the plague. What you want to do is set
up a meeting sooner rather than later so you can see
if in person you live up to what you've built up in
your head.
If you leave it go for too long one of you
is bound to be disappointed.
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