By Melissa Balmer
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
"Sex appeal is fifty percent what you've got and fifty percent what people think you've got." – Sophia Loren
As we’ve been discussing, for men the impact you create with your appearance really isn’t about whether you’re wearing the latest Prada shoes, rather it’s all about the manner in which you’ve styled yourself – then carrying it off with grace and aplomb. This is true whether we’re talking about a truck driver or one of the world’s top entrepreneur’s. Hone and own what you’ve got going for you with your appearance and sex appeal and men will line up to bask in your sexy limelight.
In order to hone and own (or own and hone) what’s great about your appearing and then unleashing your sex appeal you need to take honest stock of what’s going on with you right here right now:
Creating A Strong Sexy Foundation
Rather than think of your appearance as a mix of things that make you wince, and others that aren’t so bad (or are even down right good) why not think of yourself as a canvas on which you’re going to create your very own work of art to share with the world? Train yourself to look at what you’ve got going on with an honest eye but not one set on ripping yourself to shreds.
The Naked Truth
So how do you look naked? When we get right down to it dating and romantic relationships all have sex at their core. Attraction is about chemistry and chemistry is about sex. Unless you’re planning on being the world’s biggest teases (and I highly recommend you don’t) sooner or later you’re going to be getting naked in the sheets with the high rollers you have your sights set on so you need to be comfortable and happy when that happens. So strip down sister and take a look at what you see in the mirror – from all angles (and yes I mean all).
What are your strong points? Your shoulders? Your legs? Your breasts? What could use some help? See yourself as a whole woman and not a pile of imperfections. Could you tone up? Could you take better care of this naked self? Are you moisturized with lotion that smells wonderful and leaves your skin soft and luxuriant? Are you protected from the sun’s harm full rays with ample sunscreen? Do you have a simple but effective skin care program that leaves you feeling clean and that your skin looks great?
Let’s talk a moment about shaving. Of course your legs and underarms need to be shaved, but what about lower down? Most men don’t prefer a woman’s natural amount of hair; they’re too influenced by the naked pictures they see in magazines. I’m not suggesting you run out and get a regular “Brazilian” bikini wax, but I highly recommend that you keep your bikini line clean and even consider shaving those parts where a man spends a lot of time with his tongue – especially if you want him to spend a lot of time down there!
The Power Of Underwear
Do you wear bras and panties that work best for your figure type? Do you wear a bra that makes the most of your breasts? I’m amazed at how many women I see on the street wear ill fitting and unappealing shaped bras. You don’t have to be a C and above for a man to find your breasts wonderful, but you do need to present them in an appealing way.
Make sure your bras are the right size (not too big or small) and that they give your breasts the right support and a lovely shape. As far as panties go they too need to fit properly and not show under your clothing. Nothing ruins the look of a woman’s outfit more than panties that show bunched and wrinkled under her clothing. Also, unless you’re a young thing, the thong showing out the top of your pants or skirt really isn’t too be done. It looks like you’re trying too hard and nothing makes a woman look old and pathetic like trying too hard to be young. There are far more interesting ways to show off your sex appeal.
Here’s a very interesting and ironic thing about men, especially men with taste and money, they may not remember the color of the dress you were wearing out to dinner, but they’ll sure notice if your bra and panties don’t match later in the evening! For any woman wears a C cup and over you know what a challenge this has been for most of your life (and an expensive challenge at that). Fortunately the current lingerie boom has meant that even stores like Target and K-Mart now carry some very stylish and sexy matching bra and panty sets. If you can’t afford to have all of your bras and panties match (and few of us can) then have “special” bras and panties that you keep for dating, and remember that men like color, and especially dislike “nude”.
If you want to splurge, however, the sexiest, most elegant lingerie on the planet is either French or Italian, and yes, there are high rolling men out there who know their fine lingerie well. Get to know lines such as Cosabella and La Perla from Italy and Lise Charmel and Aubade from France. Their pieces are quite pricey, however, you can now find some great deals online, and of course if you’re patient, sooner or later your local lingerie shop will eventually put almost everything on sale.
You should also have tucked away in your lingerie drawer a few pieces for special romantic nights when you really want to blow a man’s mind. Yes, you should have a few things that are over the top sexy. You need to have a few pieces that make your stomach flutter with excitement and nerves at the idea of wearing them, but also make you get hot and bothered yourself. This means, my dear friends, that you’ve got to spend some time getting to know just what kind of sexy lingerie out there will capture your imagination and work for you. Fortunately for us there now exists the world of the Internet. Now you can browse super sexy lingerie and no one but you are the wiser. No one has to know that you’ve been pondering whether to buy the velvet bustier – or the leather one!
