How To Get A Man's Attention

Not Every Hot Actor Is Hooked Up With A Stunning Beauty; Many Of Them Are Still Married To Their High School Sweethearts

I don’t know about you, but I’m always curious about what men find attractive in women. Oh sure, we all know men’s heads swivel for a great pair of breasts (whether real or fake), a fabulous ass, and wonderful pair of legs, but have you ever noticed that male actors and models date and marry very ordinary looking women when they don’t hook up with other celebrities?

Take a moment to see what I mean during this awards season. Trust me, not every hot actor is hooked up with a stunning beauty; many of them are still married to their High School sweethearts.

This is one of the strongest indicators I’ve ever seen that even though our society and media is obsessed with outward beauty and physical perfection, when it comes right down to it, liking yourself and a great personality actually win the day for most men’s affection.

And you know what ruins a woman’s chances, even for the most beautiful of women? Having nothing to say for yourself, not an original idea or thought in your head. Or being so negative men can’t run fast enough to get away from you. The world is full of very attractive, and even beautiful women who can’t get a second date because their attitude literally repels men.

Now that doesn’t mean you can let yourself go and never get off the couch. Men are visual creatures, but when we get right down to it, all of the working out, grooming, and dressing well aren’t really so much for the men as they’re procedures that makes us feel out best – and when we feel we’re at our best we act our best.

And when we act our best and feel comfortable in our own skin, that’s when we have true power and men stand up and take notice – and then ask for our phone numbers.


What We Find Beautiful, Changes

Another thing to take into consideration is that our idea of just what is beautiful is constantly changing and morphing. Angelina Jolie is a wonderful example of this. She’s held up right now as perhaps the pinnacle of female beauty in its prime, and I won’t argue, but when she first started in the acting business that wasn’t the case.

The young actress had played in many indie and TV movies, including winning an Emmy, before causing a stir playing the gorgeous but doomed model in Gia. One entertainment show I watched recently showed clips of how the press had had literally no interest in the young Jolie when she’d won her Emmy, barely taking her photo before making it obvious that they wanted her to move on so they could photograph the next actor! So yes, what we find beautiful (both men and women) is constantly changing and morphing. Many top models and actresses were told at one time or another that she just didn’t have “it.” But she didn’t listen and stuck to her dreams.

With shows like America’s Top Model we see that personality and the ability to learn how to walk, talk, and show yourself off to your best (no matter how horrible of a day you’re having) is really what it takes to make it in that competitive world. Perhaps you’re type of beauty just hasn’t been recognized yet!


Whenever You Feel Unattractive Look Around

It’s the easiest thing in the world to start doubting your desirability and instead begin to start thinking there’s really something wrong with you, your appearance, and your ability to attract a great man. Whenever you feel yourself sliding into this depressed state I’ve got the perfect exercise for you. Go to a mall, or any crowded place where lots of people gather or walk by, and sit yourself down for a good hour of observation.

That’s right, I want you to sit and watch the world go by. Guess what you’ll start noticing? Women of every shape, size, age and appearance are in long-term relationships with rather attractive men. And you’ll recognize that you’re just as attractive, or more so, than most of the women who walk by.


Now Straight From Guys Themselves

This week I asked several men to share with me what makes a woman attractive and stand out to them, I think you’ll find what they have to say quite interesting:


“If a woman’s tall she’s gonna get my attention. But I think that what really stops me in my tracks is when it is a woman exudes the complete package...she’s dressed well (in style for what works for her). She doesn't look high maintenance (doesn't wear much, if any makeup, has little or no jewelry, doesn't look like she just walked out of the beauty salon). She has a certain look about her that says she’s comfortable with herself, takes care of herself, and isn't concerned about whether or not she fits in with every other woman on the street (and most times she doesn't). She is very much an individual of strength, confidence, high self-worth, and independence. And, if I’m lucky enough to talk with her she won’t spoil it, because when she talks she will also be of obvious intelligence, well-spoken, making sense and comfortable while exhibiting it.”

- Richard 45 Florida


Last woman I still think a lot is Jody. She has dark brown, almost black hair, blue eyes.... is very, a nice polite person. I was walking towards Broadway and she drove up to the stoplight. Our eyes met, everything stopped, froze. I’ve known her for a long time. She has the style of Audrey Hepburn and Grace Kelly. Classic looks are best, but I’m not that picky sometimes. Women are works of art according to Don Henley. That’s the way I see most of them.

- Chip 35 Colorado


What makes a woman stand out??? For me, it would have to say her eyes. Eyes are the windows to the soul. I don't care what the rest of her is like, as long as she has soulful eyes that does it for me. I melt!!

- Peter 23 Texas