How To Give A Better Blowjob

Sex is an Adventure not a Job!

But let’s be honest, many women have had bad experiences giving men oral sex – either they felt forced into it, or perhaps the man’s hygiene wasn’t the best, or frankly, some blow jobs are the blow jobs from hell, because it takes every ounce of energy and stamina you have to get the guy off. And of course then there’s the simple fact that some men expect you to use your tongue and lips and hands to take them to heaven but are very stingy in reciprocating.

If you want to give great blow jobs you don’t have to totally enjoy the act itself – but here’s the important part – you have to enjoy what your man gets out of it. You have to be turned on by his pleasure. So if your guy’s bugging you for better blow jobs, or more blow jobs, and you’re feeling put upon, or dreading the fact, or angry because it’s been years since he’s gone south on you, or you never have orgasms during sex anyway, you need to sit down and talk out those problems first before getting down to great oral tactics first, because you need to be in the right mind set to make great blow jobs happen.

You need to be open and ready to give.


Find Out What He Likes

All men might be created equal, but each man has his own particular taste in how he likes his Johnson’s handled. Don’t assume you know what he wants until you ask him. First ask him to show you exactly how he does things himself. Yep, you need to know how he masturbates. You need to see for yourself what kind of motion he seems to prefer, and you need to understand the firmness of the grip that men use on themselves (it can be quite shocking to women with little experience in this department just how rough guys are with themselves). Why is this important? Because the pussy and the hand are perfect for handling the penis – the mouth isn’t. That doesn’t mean that the mouth can’t give amazing pleasure, but it’s tough to match the firmness of the grip the vagina and the hand give. Don’t think your mouth has to do it all by itself, use your hands for help and variation.

After you’ve seen how he handles himself, ask him what he really likes about oral sex in the first place. His answers might surprise you. Oral sex, for most men, is a very visual thing. It’s about acceptance, about having the woman you desire take this most special, physically sensitive, (and degraded) part of himself into her mouth and caressing it, and many women ruin the show by being embarrassed by how they look while giving head so they hide beneath a veil of hair.

Don’t hide. Use the visual to your every advantage. And show him at every turn that giving him pleasure is giving you pleasure. That’s what will thrill him.


It’s About Giving Pleasure – But it’s Not a Marathon

Some men take a very long time to reach orgasm via oral sex either because they’re so use accustomed to their own technique and fantasies (which usually get crazier than a real live woman, but not always), or because they just can’t relax and enjoy it because of guilt and feeling it’s a sin.

If you’ve tried to give your guy a blowjob in the past and your jaw is still recovering a week later, here are two very helpful techniques:

Don’t expect to take him all the way with your mouth, switch off with your hands, or slip him inside and ride him for several strokes before jumping back off and taking him in your mouth again. I guarantee the thought of you tasting yourself on his favorite tool will ad to his excitement.

Get him half way there before you start. Don’t expect yourself to take him all the way from 0 to 60 with your mouth alone. If your guy is a challenge to get to the finish line make sure he’s good and turned on before you start. Give him an all body massage with both of you totally nude. I guarantee you sitting naked on his rump while rubbing down his shoulders (or on his stomach while massaging his arms and hands) will bring him to a very aroused state. You can also fool around in the shower or bath first, or watch some porn, or flirt and make out madly while on a date (and whisper in his ear you aren’t wearing any panties).

Ask him to cut down on the masturbation, and to switch hands when he does. He might literally need to break up his routine (especially if it’s a new relationship and he’s been single for awhile).

If the problem is guilt or shame it’s a bit more challenging, especially if he loses his erection after you take him in your mouth and start to work him over. In this case it’s better for him not to have the visual of seeing you go to work on him, so I suggest you blindfold him if he’ll consent. That way he can acclimate himself by starting with the sensations, or, you can turn around and give him a view of your nether regions to look at while you’re working on him. True 69 is a bit tough to pull off because one of the other of you ends up becoming so turned on you lose your ability to perform on the other, but just getting to look at, and smell your naked sex is enough to distract many men from their guilty conscience.


Turning Up the Heat

Whip out a pair of fur-lined handcuffs, or velvet ropes and tell him you just don’t think he’s really going to relax and enjoy himself unless he totally submits to your attention (of course you need to ask permission, so it’s best to know his feelings on this sort of thing first).

Put on a show, do a little strip tease before beginning to go down on him. Leave just one part of yourself (the top or bottom) totally bare and make sure to show him this luscious part of yourself as much as possible.

Take a little break and have him pleasure you for a minute or two. Your sighs and moans as you sit on his face will definitely give him a thrill.

Use plenty of water-based lubricant on your hands (flavored if possible), and his penis and balls, to make things slide and glide. Try some warming lubricant for added sensation.

Smile and sigh and make happy noises while you’re going at him. Show your enthusiasm and creativity.

Don’t ignore the twins. Many men love attention paid to their balls. The heat of our mouths gives an amazing sensation, and they love to have them stroked and fondled.

Up the kink and ad some anal play (but be gentle and don’t do anything to him you aren’t willing to try!). The area around the anus is extremely sensitive to stimulation. Even rubbing your well-lubricated finger around the entrance of his anus while working him with your mouth can take many men over the edge quickly for an explosive orgasm.