How To Have More Fun -

Lose Your Inhibitions, Put On Your Shortest Skirt, And Seek Out Wild Nights

Are you using the excuse of a stressful job you hate, extra weight you want to lose, or lack of funds, or education, or whatever as the reason you don’t have a better love life? Are you spending too much time on your couch with books, or movies, swooning over fictional leading men rather than real guys in your own life?

Or, are you so tied up in carefully hunting for (or waiting for) “Mr. Right,” that you’re completely over looking having a good time with some great guy right now?

Let me ask you something else. Is it possible that these behaviors of yours are just a smoke screen for what’s really going on? Is it possible that that at the heart of the matter, you don’t feel good enough, right here and right now, to even have a love life?

Are your inhibitions ruining your sex life?


Exorcise Your Demons

What are the demons of insecurity that keep you from going out, meeting new people, and having a good time? What are the flaws you believe you have that keep you from being the sort of woman who attracts great men? You can’t let go of these insecurities until you stare them squarely in the face, recognize them for what they are, and realize how they’re holding you back. So go for it, write them down, each and every flaw that you feel keeps you from being lovable and sexy and wonderful.

Now, take another look at this list and realize that women all over the world have these very same “perceived” flaws and are loved and admired and desired anyway. Yep, that’s right, women with the very same challenges as you find sexy love lives everyday.

Sometimes it helps to look at things from another angle. Do you personally believe that someone doesn’t deserve a great sex life because they have no experience? Do you believe someone doesn’t deserve to be loved and romanced because they’re lacking in education and financial resources? Of course not! Keep on going down the list of your perceived flaws and you’ll realize that none of them is a reason you feel someone else can’t have a great romantic life, so why are you holding yourself to different standards?

So exorcise those demons. Take that list you wrote down on that piece of paper and have a little ceremony of letting them go!


Hit The Refresh Button

Here’s the deal, you can’t get a college degree, lose a significant amount of weight, gain sexual expertise, change your financial status, or buy a whole new exciting wardrobe in a few minutes, but you can change your whole attitude about yourself – and that’s where the real power is.

Every time you stop beating yourself down and realize that whatever flaws you feel you have you’re still sexy and lovable anyway you gain in power and sex appeal. And here’s the best part – once you accept you’re good enough right now, it makes it so much easier to stick to an exercise plan, focus on yourself and get the education you need, or job or whatever. Berating yourself only leads to eating the entire box of cookies, or continuing to date a guy that’s no good for you, or spending money on your credit card you don’t have to spend.


Take The Mirror Test

It’s time to strip down ladies and take a good hard look at exactly what you think is so unattractive and undesirable about yourself physically. That’s right, it’s time to get naked and check yourself out in the mirror. Perhaps you don’t look like Jessica Simpson or Keira Knightly, but then really how many women do?

Instead of comparing yourself to someone else, instead of breaking yourself down into just boobs and butt and whether or not you’re skinny, really look at what’s going on with you physically and find things to love about yourself. Maybe you have really pretty feet (and boy are there a lot of men with a bit of a foot fetish), or great calves, or beautiful shoulders. Look at yourself the way a man will take you in – look at all of you.

He’s going to notice the softness of your skin and your curves (not all men like skinny women, trust me), and the way your hair frames your face.

Now try on some favorite lingerie and “date” outfits on and take yourself in again. I’ll bet you’ll see you’re far better than you feared. As a whole you’re one fabulous creature – now you just need to go out into the world with the right attitude so you can let the fun begin.


Set Your Ground Rules

What is it that you really want from men right now? Do you want to fall in love, or do you really just want to have a good time with no strings attached. Answer yourself honestly, this is your life.

If you just want to have some fun, and maybe get a little more sexual experience before settling down (if you ever want to settle down), it’s important that you play it safe, and by safe I mean it’s important that you take charge of making sure you have safe sex and use responsible birth control.

Here’s something very important to remember about men and safe sex, even if you’re just moving forward into a one night stand. The kind of men who can’t have an open, honest conversation with you about safe sex and birth control can’t communicate honestly about anything else sexual either. Your needs and desires won’t matter to him because you don’t really matter – only his getting off does. No matter how sexy he seems, no matter what a great flirt he is, if a man you’re about to have sex with can’t discuss safe sex, and participate in it, he’s not a worthy sexual partner and you need to walk away.


Make More Friends

One of the biggest reasons you probably don’t have the love life you desire is that you don’t have a broad enough network of friends and acquaintances to create a great social life with. Oh sure, you can meet a great guy in a bar, or while walking down the street, but the best way to meet safe guys to have fun and/or romance with is through people you already know. Every new person you bring into your network of friends to socialize with brings new parties and events you didn’t even know about as well as more new people (and possible dates or prince charming) along as well.