By Jackson Morris
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
Have you ever bought something and months later you said, "What the hell did I buy that for"? We all have done this whether it is buying a pair of shoes or a treadmill or even a line of crap from a guy. The latter is being sold daily for free by about 87% of the male population to women for the purpose of sexual conquest. Women know this fact but don't always recognize when the sale or transaction is taking place.
There are no myths to dispel and if women really were mind readers they would not watch soap operas. Truth be told, women get played by men who use the most powerful of tools, including "romance" & "attention". The ladies man will see you coming before you see him. Since I have a penis and speak from experience, I am going to let you in on certain ways to disarm the sexual gunslinger and point out a couple of red flags to avoid. The best part is if you step up your game it will force him to step up or fold. The ladies man can only remain such if no one throws a wrench in his game and blows his flow.
Line Please!
The first place to start is, "if it looks like bullshit and smells like bullshit, it is bullshit". Men do most if not all of the "approaching" so both sexes know that he is going to try to say something clever, funny, or complimentary to get her attention.
The lines he uses are the tricks of the trade for his favorite barter exchange: Sex. This is red flag number one ladies. I (the writer speaks directly to you) know because I do this! When a guy sounds or talks too good to be true, he is. Think about all of your long term relationships from the past, pick the top three, I bet two of the three guys did not come off as "too good to be true" when you met. The guy in the third position and lower probably has another story. The candle that burns at both ends burns twice as bright and twice as fast.
His lines will be riddled with compliments as this is the "attention" aspect of his game. You may deserve these compliments but when a guy gives you weeks' worth of compliments in a couple days you should question it. Does he use compliments to change the subject or avoid them? Does he always act "sexual" or "flirtatious" with you making it difficult to determine if he is taking you seriously? Does he avoid serious personal disclosure?
Many people avoid this to some degree, however if he does a combination of the above he is defiantly a guru selling sex under the guise of "romance".
Casanova is dead and he died broke ladies.
Now You Know
For the ladies who are not "verbally bulletproof" and have been lured by the male siren song of self gratification, there is light at the end of your bedpost. You will know for sure if he comes on strong verbally with the compliments and treats you like a lady out of bed then turns into a porn star in bed. We all want porno style sex, but his initial behavior suggests the first time will be "romantic". If he is a "talker" and the sex is not romantic but purely physical then he is a ladies man and NOW YOU KNOW. It might be sensual, but in the end from his viewpoint it's still physical.
These are scenarios where the ladies man got his start. But now you know the two biggest signs he will produce right before your eyes that suggests what he is.
The ladies man is a smooth operator with a high sex drive, he is the pinnacle of dating's bad boys racking up numbers like a sports figure in the zone. For kicks he drives to Alaska to sell ice to Eskimos. The tricky part is his mastery -- he so believes what he is telling the girls that they believe it literally tricking himself to gain your favor.
He never thinks ahead to how he will cut her loose, but it is inevitable, he will cut her (you) loose.
Best Kept Secret
If you did not sleep with him and you have caught the ladies man in the middle of his game then turn your game on. Be ready to dish it out and see if he is really a good catch or if he is someone who always plays "catch & release" with the other fish. The fastest way to disarm the ladies man is with words! That is his game so use it against him.
When you first meet a guy pay attention, listen to the content and determine if he is over complimenting and over flirting as stated in paragraph 4. If he does these things then your responses will be the weapon. When he gives you a compliment (no matter what) you will do two things; first, never compliment him back and second always respond a bit smug, i.e. "yeah I know".
He is trying to use attention and compliments as his sales pitch to break you down and lay you down. If you don't buy into them and give him the feedback he's looking for it is like an "objection" in the sales cycle that can not be overcome.
Step two: When he starts to waiver then "break off a little piece". This means if he starts to give up, throw him a compliment but only a small one. Right after you do this, fish for a compliment from him. Ask him, "do you really think I beautiful eyes?" or whatever previous compliment he gave you.
Essentially you are doing his job, putting all the attention on you, he wants to do it because he thinks he can "control" with it, but if you do it he loses all control and if he is a ladies man he will lose interest as well. A job well done ladies, bravo!
The next time you feel you are buying something you don't want, trust your instincts and turn the tables to do the selling your own way at your own pace. When it comes to men they are formulaic and predictable. Once you know this you can control us - truth is we could use some control.
