How to Make Your Summer Sizzle – Part II

So now that summer’s in full swing are you ready to really make it sizzle? If you read Part One to this article you’ve started to toy with the idea of unleashing your originality and getting in touch with your sensuality and sexuality. Now it’s time to take things a step further and go from “toying” with the idea to actually putting the idea into play:


Create A New Motto

Words are tremendously powerful tools whether you speak them out loud or just spin them in your head. Unfortunately, too often we use them to harm rather than uplift ourselves. Have you got a negative tape running in your head about yourself and/or your life in general? Do you look in the mirror and start listing all your defects instead smiling and listing your attributes? Then girlfriend it’s time to create a new motto to rehabilitate your opinion of you! This motto needs to be short, sweet, and powerful – something like “I’m fantastic the way I am” or “I’m one hot babe” or “I’m having a fabulous sexy summer”. Feel embarrassed to say such a thing about yourself? Okay, fine – but do it anyway. Life is too short to have a bad opinion of yourself. Every day people (and that means men) learn how to treat you by observing how you treat yourself – and that includes verbally. If you keep giving out the signal that “I’m not all that” then darling that’s what others are going to think too.

I don’t care if you still want to lose weight, get in better shape, long for a new wardrobe you can’t afford, want to be in love, etc. etc. you can still choose a motto for yourself right hear, and right now, that says “I’m fine just as I am”. Because you know what? You are. Sure, you can still make improvements – all of us can. But until you start to accept yourself as okay right now you’ll feel powerless to make those changes you long for.

Once you’ve decided on a motto write it down and keep it in your nightstand. To start changing your opinion of yourself you’re going to ask yourself to repeat this motto to yourself first thing when you wake up in the morning, you’re going to repeat it to yourself when you look in the mirror and get ready for work, and you’re going to say it to yourself throughout the day as many times as you can remember to. You’re also going to say this motto as soon as you hear yourself running your negativity tape in your head. That’s right; as soon as you catch yourself saying anything negative you’re going to replace the negative thought with your motto.

Since remembering to say your motto over and over to yourself is such a challenge I want you to also choose a symbol to represent your motto. This symbol should be a simple shape, or animal – something that’s easy to draw or find as a charm, toy, etc. Say for example you choose a heart to represent your new motto. I want you to find ways to incorporate this symbol into as many places as you can in your day-to-day life. I want you to put a picture of this heart on your refrigerator, on your bathroom mirror, someplace in your car where you can easily see it, on your desk at work and especially on your computer and home. The more places you find to incorporate this symbol, this charm, the better. After a week of seeing your symbol and being reminded to repeat your motto to yourself I guarantee you’re going to start feeling better about yourself – and others will too.


Enhance Your Sexuality

In order to sizzle you need to be in touch with yourself sexually. You need to know what you like, what you don’t, and what you’d like to try. You especially need to know the type of touch, pressure, etc. that you need to receive physically in order for you to really get turned on and enjoy yourself. If you’ve shied away from masturbating before now is the time to put away your embarrassment and literally get in touch with yourself. If you’ve never tried a vibrator, or one of the other myriad of sex toys out there, now is the time to gather up your courage and buy one. If you can’t bring yourself to a sex shop than shop online! No muss, no fuss and no embarrassment! While you’re at it make sure to look for the lubricant that’s just right for you as well.

Now is also a great time to find out what kind of erotic literature or even videos to turn on both your mind and body and give you ideas for what you can try with a partner. Female erotica has become so popular that you can find collections of it at almost any bookstore. Erotica comes in a style to fit just about every taste from sweetly romantic to vividly graphic. If you want to save money you can check out what’s available in the used section of Amazon.com.

If you’re the more visual sort you can check out a sexy video or two like the “Red Shoe Diary” series with 18 videos to choose from (also available on Amazon as well as many other websites – or you can rent them) or you can jump right in and be really adventurous and check out a porn video. What’s important is for you to be open-minded and learn about what turns you on – but at a pace and place you feel comfortable with. What turns you on now may be something very different then what you’ve always imagined, or you may find that over the years your tastes have really changed. Take the time to explore and find out.