by Kristin Scott
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
Want to meet a fantastic guy you have tons in common with? Then get out there and do the things you really want to do – right now. Most women do exactly the opposite. They long to learn how to sail, ride a horse, hike, speak a foreign language, know great wine etc. etc. – so what do they do? Anything but what they long to do. They work long hours, spend time with friends and family, and complain constantly about how they never meet anyone they have interests in common with.
You have two choices. You can keep talking the talk and stay at home, or walking the walk and get out and do what you want to do, learn what you want to learn, and begin to meet men who really are interested in the same interests and passions that you are. It doesn’t matter whether you’re mad for mysteries or French cuisine, somewhere not too far from you, are clubs and classes that cater to your interests. Find one! Join it!
In the United States especially we live under this fantasy that if we just work at our career hard enough the rest of our life will take care of itself. It won’t. Each avenue of life we want to be successful at needs our attention and care – our leisure time passions are no different. Whether you want to create your own organic garden or learn to ski, if you really want to do it, if you really want it to be a part of your life, you have to make it a priority.
Men Who Are Out Doing Are Less Likely To Be Couch Potatoes
There are two kinds of people in the world, those who like to talk about things they want to do, and those who find ways to go out and do them. If you want to be out in the world learning new things and having new experiences you need to hook up with the latter sort of man. Trust me, it saves you vast amount of heart ache. Couch potatoes are everywhere, and though they can pull themselves together to make a good impression in the beginning, though they can often talk a good talk, you’ll quickly see that they don’t have any intention of actually doing that thing you keep talking about that they swear they love too. Why? Because they won’t initiate a plan to do it. It’s that simple.
Men who are passionate about doing what they love to do go out and do it. If it’s dancing they’re at the clubs, if it’s music they’re at the gig, if it’s skiing they’re in the car or on the plane on the way to Utah. They plan and they do. Unfortunately they’re rarer than the sort who only like to talk. Doers can be found – but you need to be brave and delve into their habitat.
Be Okay Going Alone
If you don’t have a girlfriend interested in your hobby go ahead and take the class anyway. Don’t hinge your enjoyment on the fate of whether or not a friend is willing to tag along. Even if what you want to do is for “couples” and you’ve just got your little old self go anyway. There’s always a good chance that a single man has done the same thing, and if not, you’ll get more attention from the teacher.
Let Go of Wanting To Be Perfect
Classes are for learning, not to show off what you already know. Challenge yourself to jump right into something you’d like to know more about rather than spending hours sitting at home learning everything you can so you’ll sound informed in front of others. Of course you need to know to bring sunscreen and water for a day hike, but if you wait until you lose those lands pounds before you join the Sierra Club one season after another will flow right on by and you won’t be out in the woods yet. Think of all of the beautiful flora and fauna you’re missing – and yes, I’m including interesting, available men in the fauna category.
Let Men Be Helpful
If you wait until you already know everything about a certain hobby, skill etc. before you move forward and partake in your passion you’ll miss out on the opportunity of allowing men to be helpful. Men love to help women. Men love to show their strength, their skills and their knowledge. No, you don’t need to subject yourself to a boring, vain, bragging idiot of a guy, but do get up the courage to ask the really cute guy in cooking class why his omelets always come out so perfectly. I’m sure he’ll be happy to show you how it’s done.
If you like to dance then salsa is one of the best types for just jumping in and trying it out. At many salsa clubs there are lessons before the club opens for the evening and I’ve found that there are always Latin men around later who are perfectly happy to continue honing your dancing skills.
Also, you’ll find all kinds of cute, interesting, helpful men working at stores that cater to your new hobby – whether it’s the guitar or rock climbing you’re learning you’ll find a whole new world of men working at the stores that cater to your interests.
Do It Now
Whatever you want to do there’s no time like the present to start doing it. Sure, you may need to save a bit of money up first, you may need to take other steps and other classes just to be in shape for it – but each step you take towards your passion is going to open up your world in new and interesting ways that you might not ever have imagined. You will broaden your horizons and you will meet men who have similar interests you do.
So go for it. Do it now.
