Key Personality Traits We Look For in Men

Although it may seem as if most women are picky, if you get down to the nitty gritty of things, you will find that what today's women really want is a kind, respectful, knows how to take care of them in bed kind of guy.

Sure when you are younger you dream of all the things you want in a man. Good looks, great personality, tall dark and handsome, you know, all the things that you are taught to look for at such an early age.

Yet if you think about it, you really only have two men to compare him - Ken Doll and your Father. This makes it a little difficult in the grand scheme of things, due to the fact that I have yet to meet one man on this earth who reminds me of Ken, or my father for that matter.

All the while you continue convincing yourself that if you can only grow up to look exactly like Barbie you will find a man that's wonderful just like Ken and all will be perfect.

When I hit my teenage years, my perception of what I wanted in a man changed a bit. I started thinking that it might be cool to date the "bad boy" and I knew that my parents wouldn't approve, so that was all the more the reason to do so. And although that can be fun for a little while, all it really does it get you nowhere closer to "Mr. Right."

Entering my twenties I began to realize that you couldn't just make a list of the "key personality traits you want in a man." You have to really consider who you are as an individual and look beyond the "perfect guy" image that was embedded in to your brain at such an early age.

As women, we want a man who respects us as equals. We want a man who isn't afraid to let his woman shine and not take any of the credit for her accomplishments. He has to allow her to breathe when she needs a breath, vent when she needs someone to listen, and truly understand the agony that she is dealing with when she breaks the heel of her favorite pair of stilettos.

A man must know when to be sincere and also know when to put his foot down. Because women, although we have trouble admitting to it, all want a man to be a "man" when it is necessary. We want a man that gives us flowers for no reason at all (our boyfriends and husbands, not strangers or stalkers), and who calls just to say he loves you.

We want a man who kisses us on the forehead before he goes to work. And when he comes home we want him to prop us up on the kitchen counter and do all the things we both had dreamt about doing all day.

Women and men alike both need to be taken care of mentally, physically, and sexually. Women just tend to need more attention in certain areas. If a man is willing to "learn" with his woman than it will be a more pleasurable experience for both along the way.

For women, as we age, we realize that the choice of "good men" becomes slimmer and slimmer. The probability of finding a man that is not just interested in the size of your breasts or how good you look in a bikini is slim to none. At this point in our lives we have to take a step back and reevaluate the situation a bit. We start to think, does it really matter if he has a receding hairline, or if he isn't in the best shape of his life?

What we thought we wanted in a man at one point may just not be what we end up with. If we want that sincere man with respect for his woman, will we get the looks to go with it?

Or do we just settle for the man who may not look so hot, but at least will treat us good? All in all we have to come to the conclusion that we are the only ones who get to pick and choose who we want to keep in our lives for a day or for a lifetime.

So for the time being, I say go out with your girlfriends, drink martinis, pick up on prestigous men at classy bars, and just have a good time. Stop looking for "Mr. Right" and have fun with "Mr. Right Now!" When the time is right, he will come along… in the meantime live a little, and go get that "bad boy" that you always wanted to sleep with… I promise you it'll be fun!