By Grant Day
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
Okay, like I said last time the best sex positions are the ones that allow both you and your partner to experience the greatest pleasure and to come to an orgasm. In this era of easy access to porn many people (ah yeah guys, usually that’s you) forget that what they find erotically stimulating to watch won’t pack the same erotic punch when they themselves are in these very same positions.
In a nutshell most men need to learn more about positions and techniques that will make women happy because two of the biggest complaints women have are:
1. Not enough direct clitoral stimulation so the possibility of an orgasm is mute.
2. Not enough time spent in the right position so they have time to become aroused enough to achieve an orgasm.
Men, on the other hand, worry more about keeping it up long enough to make all of this happen. It’s a lot of pressure. That’s again why it’s crucial to remember that great communication is the golden key to sex.
Also, men need to realize that relying only on intercourse to make a woman happy can be a very tough job. The smart man makes sure the woman has her first orgasm via oral sex or manual stimulation first to make sure she’s totally ready, willing and able to make the most of intercourse.
Okay, so let’s get down to it and talk about positions that will bring more sizzle into your sex life:
Spooning
No, the spooning position isn’t the one for vigorous thrusting, however, even though the couple aren’t facing it can be amazingly intimate if it’s properly taken advantage of. What do I mean by this? Well, for starters it’s the easiest position for a woman to show a man exactly how she needs to be touched, so there can be very sexy interplay between the two of you. It’s also a position where men can use the power of their voice to bring the woman to a new level of arousal.
Women are aural, meaning they’re very turned on by the sound of a man’s voice, and what he says. The smart man learns to use his voice to his advantage with a woman; both in how he sounds, and the sorts of things he says to turn her on. Men can use their voice to keep a woman’s focus on the sensations in her body, and can make her feel at east and totally desired by what he chooses to say during these intimate moments. Add to this that he can put his lips against her ear and say things in a sexy whisper and things get really hot.
She Sits He Stands
This is the position for all of you who love the thrill of having sex in someplace other than the bedroom. All you need is a counter top that’s at the right hip level for the man and a little bit of privacy and you’re good to go. The obvious plusses of this position are the hot eye-to eye contact, the deep thrusting potential, and that the woman doesn’t get fatigued the way she can during “against the wall” intercourse – the guy gets fatigued but hey, that’s tough.
Note of caution, since intercourse in this position may be a “quick” interaction due to the location you need to make sure the woman is totally aroused or intercourse will be painful.
Backwards Cowgirl
This position is a variation on woman on top. Basically the woman straddles the guy facing his knees instead of, well, him. While not as intimate as any face-to-face position it can be a very pleasurable position for both parties involved (and hey, if you perform it in front of a mirror she gets to see everything too). Let’s break it down…the woman still controls the speed and movement so she can do what works best for her, the guy is given a great view of all the action (which we so love). The man can also give the woman added stimulation by reaching around and stroking her clitoris, or if she’s got that covered, he can give her added “pelvic floor” stimulation by stroking the very sensitive undersides of her buttocks, or, if both parties consent he can intensify the pleasure by directly stimulating her back door.
Watching the Tube
This position is a variation of the Backwards Cowgirl. The man sits on a couch or chair and the woman straddles him facing forward. Because both parties are sitting it allows a great amount of intimacy even though the couple isn’t face to face. The man can caress the woman’s breasts, neck, arms, and of course clitoris, or he can guide her hips to help control the movement. The woman needs only to have good thigh strength – and of course this position is a great thigh workout!
So there you have four positions to try your hands and bodies at and discovery new ways to bring each other greater pleasure. Remember that sexual intercourse isn’t a contest for physical endurance and flexibility (many men love to twist women into all sorts of shapes without reflecting on how uncomfortable they’d be in such positions) unless all you care about is physical endurance and flexibility. A flashy, aerobic position is pretty empty if it doesn’t bring the woman as much pleasure as it brings the man.
And to those men and women who feel they’re “purists” and don’t feel hands should be needed to give the woman additional stimulation may I remind you yet again that most women don’t have orgasms during plain old intercourse. So if this is you ladies, do you want to continue not to enjoy intercourse or would you like to get into the game and find out what all the fuss is about? And men, if this is you, what are you so threatened by? There’s absolutely nothing more thrilling than knowing exactly how to help your woman achieve an orgasm
