By Melissa Balmer
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
In just twenty days spring is here. Are you ready for it? It’s been one brutal winter for many of us (even from usually sunny Southern California where I write to you from) and it will still be for some weeks to come. But that doesn’t matter, what matters is that spring will be here, and you need to be ready to enjoy all it has to offer.
Why? Because in spring, just as all plant life begins anew, so too can your quest for a more exciting love life. Yes, I know I may sound like I’m getting all warm and fuzzy on you but really I’m being practical. One needs to prepare to bring great new things into ones life and romance (or even a scintillating sex life) is no different. Right now you probably need a little boost, a good shot in the arm to get you motivated and ready to get back in the saddle again to meet that great new guy.
And just how are you going to do it? Following are three very simple steps. They’re not anything new, you’ve heard them before, you might have even suggested them to a friend – but this time you’re going to approach them with the idea that you’re getting ready to “Spring Into New Beginnings” that you’re getting ready to “Spring Into Action.”
Clean Out The Old
It is said in spiritual teachings that the universe hates a void – meaning a blank space. Hey, you think, what about my heart? What about my love life! It’s completely blank!
But is it really? It’s amazing how we long to be swept off our feet by some new handsome stranger while still pining silently for the guy we had and didn’t keep, or that it never worked out with. While preparing for this spring try something radical – really be open to the new and the now.
Also, nothing says “I’m not available” more to a guy than if your home is so filled to the brim (regular stuff is bad, memories of an old love even worse) he’ll have trouble finding a place to sit down, trouble hanging some clothes in your closet, and trouble finding some space in your bathroom for his toothpaste.
Here’s the thing. Men are territorial. They may often take longer than we do to commit, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t scoping out the prospects as early as we do. I once made the mistake of keeping some of my ex-husbands belongings (as a favor) at my apartment while I was dating someone new. When Mr. New Guy mentioned that I should “really get that stuff out of here” I had no idea that it was sending the signal that I was still tied to the past – but it was.
Haven’t you been hanging on to some of your stuff for just a little too long? I know I have. This month is going to be dedicated to cleaning some of it out!
Make Your Home More Inviting To A Man
Does everything in your apartment say you’re so crazy for your cat that you have no room for a man in your heart? Is your bedroom so frilly he’s afraid he’ll lose his testosterone just from sleeping in your bed? Look around, does your home welcome a man or does it state clearly that this is a female’s space and any man visiting is to be there for only a limited amount of time?
Don’t make the mistake of believing that just because straight men don’t often talk about décor the way women and gay men do that they don’t notice whether or not a space is or isn’t inviting and open to them. They do. Not sure what would make your home more inviting to a man? Why not check out some design magazines like Elle Décor and Metropolitan Home, and even some of the higher end men’s magazines like Esquire? I’m not talking about changing your entire décor style, I’m just talking about adding elements that will make a man feel more at home – it might be something as simple as adding a martini shaker and glasses, changing to less “girlie” sheets, or even purchasing a small barbecue so a man can show off his outdoor grilling expertise.
Try New Things Just For The Fun Of It
If you want to build new muscles you go to a gym. If you want to learn something new you buy a book on the subject, read about it on the Internet, or take a class. But what about scheduling time just to remember to have fun and enjoy yourself? It’s so easy to get so caught up in every day responsibilities, work, bills, family etc. that it’s easy to forget how to simply have fun. Here’s the double whammy bummer about that – you’re never more appealing to a man than when you’re enjoying yourself.
How long has it been since you laughed so hard your stomach hurt? How long has it been since your face ached from smiling so much? How long has it been since you did something silly, or even meaningful, just because you knew you’d enjoy it and it would give you fond memories? It doesn’t have to be about spending money, or trying to transform yourself on the outside – enjoying yourself is really about transforming yourself on the inside. You can do something as simple as checking out your favorite classic from the library, going to hear some great live music, or taking a scenic drive to someplace that’s always moved you.
And yes, it’s great to share fun times with friends but if they don’t have the time to go I hereby give you permission to go out and do it anyway. Take that ceramics, or belly dancing, or cake decorating class all by yourself just because you’ve always wanted to.
You’re worth it. So get ready… spring is almost here.
