By Jackson Morris
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
The number one question I get asked by women besides my shoe size is, "Why don't men call back?" Why is it when I give my phone number he does not call?
Why did we have great sex and he never called back? Why did I not get "date #2"? What did I do?
These are natural questions especially if it happens often. I tend to believe we reap what we sow, if this is happening often then I would look to myself first before we discuss the dynamic idiosyncrasies of "buyer's remorse".
It all starts with you ladies. Most if not all men do not approach females unless they are attracted to them from a physical stand point. You know this fact! You know that when a man approaches you it is not because you went to Vassar or because you have a master's degree in Stupiophysics.
"Please Approach Me" Signal
He is approaching because he is attracted to you and he must have felt that you sent him the signal "please approach me". Did you send that signal? Did you send it without knowing it, thinking to yourself, "I was just being nice"?
What signals did you send? Many men take even a reciprocatory smile as an invitation. If you see a guy "mackin" on you, then blow him off if you don't want his attention.
This is the first reason that a guy does not call back after you exchange phone numbers. This first example of "buyer's remorse" is when he goes home and does not feel you were "totally" into him.
There is a surge of energy when a man hits on you, his adrenaline is much higher and thus his interest is too. Instinctively when he walks away he will feel whether you were digging him or not and if that overwhelming feeling does not stay with him he will back out or not call. If you want him to call then make sure that you give that signal very strong in your message early on. Your interest will increase his interest.
He Sleeps With You And Then He Won't Call Back
So now what about the men who sleep with you and don't call back what about them? The number one reason a guy does not call back after your first sex session is "insecurity", his. Some guys are good at playing the game to get you in bed, but have no follow up plan and in the long run are not a great catch anyway. The first question you should ask yourself is, "did I treat him like a one night stand"?
You might have been sexual all along thinking it would be fun, and he is thinking that you only want sex and nothing more. This be evident when he does not call for weeks after the first time and it is only to make a booty call. Men are not mind readers and if you send the "come sex me" message, he will show up will bells on. If you don't want him to hit and run, don't let him into the bank.
Men Are Insecure - Just Like Everyone Else
Men are insecure just like everyone else. If the guy you slept with is not a good catch he will know it long before you. He knows when he is "snowing" a girl to get her in bed, but his biggest fear is her finding out he lives an average life. He is secure in his manhood having sex, but the social dynamics that follow and are important are something he is incapable of. He knows if he calls back he will have to reveal more about himself that he is not content with and that he may have to keep promises he made while trying to vie for your affections.
Strike TWO
Why did he not call back for a second date? Here is the scenario; you meet in public, exchange numbers, have good first phone call, meet for a casual date - he never calls back. Why? Based on what I stated earlier, he might have not felt your "vibe" he kept thinking (or wishing) it would come out but he got down to spending money with no return.
Keep in mind ladies the return could be as simple as you kissing him on the cheek and saying, "I would love to see you again". That creates interest and strokes his ego at the same time. The male needs both; stoking his ego and knowing "she" is interested. Without both, he will find Dinner Company elsewhere.
Money Is No Object If She Is Reciprocating
Even the most affluent men have told me that money is no object if she is reciprocating, but if she isn't why would I spend a dime? The second reason he does not call for strike two is he has judged you. You might be a girl just "taking it slow" he might see a girl who gets free meals because she is a babe and he is no different.
No woman can tell me she has not taken a free meal from a man solely for the meal. All of you have, and when we figure this out it does not matter if you are funny and a great lay, he sees you as a user and says c-ya.
To avoid buyer's remorse I would start with what you "sow". If you are attracting the same guys, go somewhere new and mix the game up. Allow men to approach you that you are interested in by showing them you are. Give a solid strong message right away that you are interested in a date. If you change your mind at any time, TELL HIM.
If you don't he will feel it anyway and beat you to the punch by not calling or worse yet, standing you up. On the date (important) if you are having a great time and want a second date, you don't have to sleep with him, but give him some clue that you are digging him. This can be done with a passionate kiss (keep them coming back for more) or better yet, call him when you get home to say thanks and plant the seed for next time.
Ladies you have all the control, did you not know that? When men don't call you back, most times, you really did not want him to and he is just doing what you told him without telling him. Shop wisely and save your original receipt for 30 days.
