By Jackson Morris
Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com.
If you drive down Pacific Coast Highway in California you will see numerous signs offering "Psychic Readings". These retail fronts advertise a "Medium" who can read Tarot cards, read palms and tell the future.
For a handful of dollars you can hear your destiny from a 46 year old woman named Hazel with six cats and a beat up Buick LaSabre in the driveway.
If someone could really tell the future then we would all be lined up for a daily reading that would rival newspaper readership. Most people that visit these psychics want to know about RELATIONSHIPS and what is in store for them in the future mysteries of love.
People today don't put nearly as much mental effort into figuring out their careers as they do about the future of their relationships. Relationships are complex because they are made up of three separate dynamics:
Your dynamic, his dynamic and the "us" dynamic.
To have a more seamless transition from the "I" dynamic to the "We" dynamic you must have vision and that relationship vision must be as tangible as the vision you have in all other aspects of your life. You won't need to have a psychic or a prophet see your future but you will have to have "VISION".
This vision will help you pick HIM out and work IT out when necessary. That same vision will challenge you to break cycles that you have become accustomed to, like fun bad habits.
Bad Girls
The hardest part of any journey is to begin. Any female I have had a serious relationship with has at least one SECRET or NAUGHTY story that she enjoyed thoroughly but does not care for her future husband to know. We all have a history and so will your new mate. The first vision you must have is what type and to what level of communication you will have and what you will expect.
Communication is the foundation of all relationships and can fix or destroy any component of a happy union. Are you an introvert who keeps their feelings tucked away? Are you an extrovert who must absolutely get the last word in? You must determine what type of communicator you will need to suit your personality.
If you seek a man that is RESERVED for a long term relationship then don't act all slutty at the party with the party guy who is getting all the attention. The party guy always commands attention because people want to have fun, especially women but he is not the main character in any female's vision of her future.
You bad girls who have secrets or the equivalent are no different than the bad boys out there. Don't be afraid of who you are because it is what makes you attractive to others. The incubation process of personal growth is embracing who you are and not denying it.
Would that not be an admirable quality to possess? Would that not be a quality to seek in another? We are all a little bad inside, which is a good thing. Embracing personal qualities is vision "one" for you and the guy you seek. If he is a little bad that is good, if he is in touch with who he is now, he is a strong candidate for an LTR (long term relationship).
Looks Aren't' Everything
Never judge a book by its cover. If you did you would never believe that "A Confederacy of Dunces" would have won a Pulitzer Prize. Women always SAY that looks are not nearly as important as a really great or cool guy.
They supposedly put character first before looks.
Bullshit, every night club, spring break resort and Vegas pool tell a different story. When women want to get there groove on or get there groove back they always pick a hot bodied stud to do the dirty work.
This means women are as superficial as men about who they want to be physically intimate with. Everybody secretly wishes that there partner was a drop dead model but we all know that is not realistic.
Your vision of the man you see yourself holding hands with needs to broaden as wide as you can possibly stomach (no pun intended). The guy at your office who never shows up to company parties and is not that social at work might be the BOMB IN BED.
He might even be the biggest sexual freak you have ever met. He might be saving his pennies for his second home so he can retire by the time he turns forty. He may not wear the expensive shoes that the men in your past used to wear, but let's face it; those guys are no longer around with their fancy shoes anyway.
Remember, guys who get by solely by their LOOKS will have nothing to fall back on when they loose those good looks.
Great Expectations
This is the real key to this whole article. I am going to bitch slap you ladies with the hard truth and here it is.
QUIT DRAGGING YOUR PAST INTO YOUR FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS AND CREATING UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
Every time you create an expectation for your partner you are actually creating an opportunity for him to fail you miserably. The Gin Blossoms sing: "If you don't expect too much from me you might not be let down."
There are GLASS SLIPPERS out there ladies, and one of them fits you. But let us not forget what CINDERELLA had to endure before the prince slipped it on her little foot. She never settled for less than the prince, she followed the rules of her mentor, she made her decision on love not money (bonus), and she made him "court" her.
What is your relationship vision? Could you draw it? Are there more than just the two of you in the picture? Is it sunny in the picture or does a full moon romantically guide the story? Are you both surrounded by material things or nature in the picture? Can you draw laughter? Did you? Visualize your relationship - don't settle for less.
